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e Gets Rid Of His Eldest Son
You can easily imagine what a father such a man could be and how he
would bring up his children. His behavior as a father was exactly what
might be expected. He completely abandoned the child of his marriage
with Adelaïda Ivanovna, not from malice, nor because of his matrimonial
grievances, but simply because he forgot him. While he was wearying
every one with his tears and complaints, and turning his house into a
sink of debauchery, a faithful servant of the family, Grigory, took the
three‐year‐old Mitya into his care. If he hadn’t looked after him there
would have been no one even to change the baby’s little shirt.
It happened moreover that the child’s relations on his mother’s side
forgot him too at first. His grandfather was no longer living, his
widow, Mitya’s grandmother, had moved to Moscow, and was seriously ill,
while his daughters were married, so that Mitya remained for almost a
whole year in old Grigory’s charge and lived with him in the servant’s
cottage. But if his father had remembered him (he could not, indeed,
have been altogether unaware of his existence) he would have sent him
back to the cottage, as the child would only have been in the way of
his debaucheries. But a cousin of Mitya’s mother, Pyotr Alexandrovitch
Miüsov, happened to return from Paris. He lived for many years
afterwards abroad, but was at that time quite a young man, and
distinguished among the Miüsovs as a man of enlightened ideas and of
European culture, who had been in the capitals and abroad. Towards the
end of his life he became a Liberal of the type common in the forties
and fifties. In the course of his career he had come into contact with
many of the most Liberal men of his epoch, both in Russia and abroad.
He had known Proudhon and Bakunin personally, and in his declining
years was very fond of describing the three days of the Paris
Revolution of February 1848, hinting that he himself had almost taken
part in the fighting on the barricades. This was one of the most
grateful recollections of his youth. He had an independent property of
about a thousand souls, to reckon in the old style. His splendid estate
lay on the outskirts of our little town and bordered on the lands of
our famous monastery, with which Pyotr Alexandrovitch began an endless
lawsuit, almost as soon as he came into the estate, concerning the
rights of fishing in the river or wood‐cutting in the forest, I don’t
know exactly which. He regarded it as his duty as a citizen and a man
of culture to open an attack upon the “clericals.” Hearing all about
Adelaïda Ivanovna, whom he, of course, remembered, and in whom he had
at one time been interested, and learning of the existence of Mitya, he
intervened, in spite of all his youthful indignation and contempt for
Fyodor Pavlovitch. He made the latter’s acquaintance for the first
time, and told him directly that he wished to undertake the child’s
education. He used long afterwards to tell as a characteristic touch,
that when he began to speak of Mitya, Fyodor Pavlovitch looked for some
time as though he did not understand what child he was talking about,
and even as though he was surprised to hear that he had a little son in
the house. The story may have been exaggerated, yet it must have been
something like the truth.
Fyodor Pavlovitch was all his life fond of acting, of suddenly playing
an unexpected part, sometimes without any motive for doing so, and even
to his own direct disadvantage, as, for instance, in the present case.
This habit, however, is characteristic of a very great number of
people, some of them very clever ones, not like Fyodor Pavlovitch.
Pyotr Alexandrovitch carried the business through vigorously, and was
appointed, with Fyodor Pavlovitch, joint guardian of the child, who had
a small property, a house and land, left him by his mother. Mitya did,
in fact, pass into this cousin’s keeping, but as the latter had no
family of his own, and after securing the revenues of his estates was
in haste to return at once to Paris, he left the boy in charge of one
of his cousins, a lady living in Moscow. It came to pass that, settling
permanently in Paris he, too, forgot the child, especially when the
Revolution of February broke out, making an impression on his mind that
he remembered all the rest of his life. The Moscow lady died, and Mitya
passed into the care of one of her married daughters. I believe he
changed his home a fourth time later on. I won’t enlarge upon that now,
as I shall have much to tell later of Fyodor Pavlovitch’s firstborn,
and must confine myself now to the most essential facts about him,
without which I could not begin my story.
In the first place, this Mitya, or rather Dmitri Fyodorovitch, was the
only one of Fyodor Pavlovitch’s three sons who grew up in the belief
that he had property, and that he would be independent on coming of
age. He spent an irregular boyhood and youth. He did not finish his
studies at the gymnasium, he got into a military school, then went to
the Caucasus, was promoted, fought a duel, and was degraded to the
ranks, earned promotion again, led a wild life, and spent a good deal
of money. He did not begin to receive any income from Fyodor Pavlovitch
until he came of age, and until then got into debt. He saw and knew his
father, Fyodor Pavlovitch, for the first time on coming of age, when he
visited our neighborhood on purpose to settle with him about his
property. He seems not to have liked his father. He did not stay long
with him, and made haste to get away, having only succeeded in
obtaining a sum of money, and entering into an agreement for future
payments from the estate, of the revenues and value of which he was
unable (a fact worthy of note), upon this occasion, to get a statement
from his father. Fyodor Pavlovitch remarked for the first time then
(this, too, should be noted) that Mitya had a vague and exaggerated
idea of his property. Fyodor Pavlovitch was very well satisfied with
this, as it fell in with his own designs. He gathered only that the
young man was frivolous, unruly, of violent passions, impatient, and
dissipated, and that if he could only obtain ready money he would be
satisfied, although only, of course, for a short time. So Fyodor
Pavlovitch began to take advantage of this fact, sending him from time
to time small doles, installments. In the end, when four years later,
Mitya, losing patience, came a second time to our little town to settle
up once for all with his father, it turned out to his amazement that he
had nothing, that it was difficult to get an account even, that he had
received the whole value of his property in sums of money from Fyodor
Pavlovitch, and was perhaps even in debt to him, that by various
agreements into which he had, of his own desire, entered at various
previous dates, he had no right to expect anything more, and so on, and
so on. The young man was overwhelmed, suspected deceit and cheating,
and was almost beside himself. And, indeed, this circumstance led to
the catastrophe, the account of which forms the subject of my first
introductory story, or rather the external side of it. But before I
pass to that story I must say a little of Fyodor Pavlovitch’s other two
sons, and of their origin.
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Let's Analyse the Pattern
The practice of abandoning responsibilities while constructing noble-sounding explanations that protect the abandoner's self-image.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how people use complex explanations and small incremental betrayals to steal while maintaining plausible deniability.
Practice This Today
Next time someone gives elaborate explanations for why they can't pay you back or why 'temporary' help became permanent, document the pattern instead of accepting the story.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"He completely abandoned the child of his marriage with Adelaïda Ivanovna, not from malice, nor because of his matrimonial grievances, but simply because he forgot him."
Context: Explaining how Fyodor treats his three-year-old son after his wife's death
This reveals that Fyodor's neglect isn't even motivated by anger or revenge - it's pure indifference. The casual nature of 'simply because he forgot him' shows how completely self-absorbed he is.
In Today's Words:
He didn't abandon his kid out of spite - he literally just forgot he had one because he was too wrapped up in himself.
"If he hadn't looked after him there would have been no one even to change the baby's little shirt."
Context: Describing how Grigory the servant became Mitya's caretaker
The specific detail about changing shirts emphasizes how basic the neglect was - this child would have been left in dirty clothes. It shows how a servant had to step in for the most fundamental parental duties.
In Today's Words:
Without the hired help, this baby would have been sitting in dirty diapers with no one caring.
"But if his father had remembered him he would have sent him back to the cottage, as the child would only have been in the way of his debaucheries."
Context: Explaining that Fyodor's forgetfulness was actually better for Mitya than his attention would have been
This shows that even if Fyodor had remembered his son, it would only have been to get rid of him more efficiently. The child's welfare never enters the equation - only whether he interferes with partying.
In Today's Words:
Even if dad had remembered he had a kid, he would have just shipped him off so he wouldn't cramp his party lifestyle.
Thematic Threads
Abandonment
In This Chapter
Fyodor completely abandons his three-year-old son, leaving him in rags until a servant intervenes
Development
Builds on earlier theme of emotional distance, now showing how it escalates to complete neglect
In Your Life:
You might recognize this in parents who disappear after divorce or friends who vanish during your tough times
Performance
In This Chapter
Fyodor theatrically pretends not to know which child Miüsov is discussing when confronted about responsibility
Development
Extends the earlier theatrical behavior into active deception and responsibility avoidance
In Your Life:
You see this when people act confused about commitments they clearly remember making
Class
In This Chapter
Miüsov, the worldly cousin from Paris, swoops in as savior but then gets distracted by political events and abandons Mitya too
Development
Shows how class privilege can create the illusion of rescue while perpetuating the same neglect
In Your Life:
This appears when well-meaning but privileged people offer help they can't sustain
Financial Manipulation
In This Chapter
Fyodor systematically steals Mitya's inheritance through small payments and manipulative legal agreements
Development
Introduced here as a new dimension of betrayal that will drive future conflicts
In Your Life:
You might see this in family businesses where one person controls finances while others do the work
Expectations
In This Chapter
Mitya grows up believing he has an inheritance waiting, which shapes his entire approach to life and relationships
Development
Shows how false promises in childhood create unrealistic adult expectations
In Your Life:
This happens when parents make promises about support or inheritance they never intend to keep
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
How does Fyodor react when confronted about his son's care and education, and what does this reveal about his character?
analysis • surface - 2
Why do you think both Fyodor and Miüsov use elaborate justifications for essentially abandoning Mitya rather than simply admitting they don't want the responsibility?
analysis • medium - 3
Where have you seen people today use noble-sounding language to justify abandoning their responsibilities to family, work, or community?
application • medium - 4
If you were in Mitya's position as an adult discovering years of financial manipulation disguised as care, how would you protect yourself while confronting the situation?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter suggest about how people protect their self-image when their actions contradict their values, and why is this pattern dangerous in relationships?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Decode the Justification Game
Think of a time when someone abandoned a responsibility to you but made it sound like they were doing you a favor. Write down their exact words, then translate what actually happened. For example: 'I'm giving you space to figure this out yourself' might translate to 'I don't want to deal with your problem.' Practice recognizing the gap between virtuous language and actual behavior.
Consider:
- •Notice if their explanation made you feel guilty for needing help
- •Look for patterns where their 'gifts' consistently benefit them more than you
- •Consider how this affects your ability to trust their future promises
Journaling Prompt
Write about a responsibility you've been tempted to abandon. What noble-sounding justification did you consider using, and what would honest accountability look like instead?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 3: The Second Marriage's Dark Pattern
Now we meet Fyodor's second wife and learn about his other two sons—each shaped by different forms of neglect and abandonment. The pattern of damaged children continues to build toward an inevitable family explosion.




