Summary
The Grandmother's gambling addiction reaches its peak as she loses everything in a devastating session at the casino. What started as confident play quickly spirals into desperate, irrational betting. She loses her morning's winnings plus twelve thousand gulden, then exchanges bonds for more money to continue playing. Despite the narrator's attempts to moderate her bets, she becomes increasingly erratic and blames others for her losses. When De Griers tries to help with strategy, she follows his advice once, loses everything, and angrily dismisses him. The family watches in horror, knowing her losses threaten their own financial schemes. After losing fifteen thousand rubles total, the Grandmother announces she's returning to Moscow immediately. She offers to take Polina with her, sensing the girl's troubled situation with De Griers, but Polina asks for time to decide, unable to abandon her younger siblings. When the Grandmother makes one final attempt to return to the casino that night, the narrator finally refuses to accompany her, returning her money and walking away. She goes anyway with only Potapitch, loses another ten thousand rubles under guidance from a Polish gambler, and returns home completely broken. This chapter shows how addiction destroys not just the gambler but everyone around them, and how sometimes the only healthy choice is to refuse to participate in someone else's self-destruction.
Coming Up in Chapter 13
With the Grandmother's departure imminent and the family's schemes in ruins, desperate measures are about to be taken. The narrator's relationship with Polina reaches a crucial turning point as hidden truths finally surface.
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The Grandmother was in an impatient, irritable frame of mind. Without doubt the roulette had turned her head, for she appeared to be indifferent to everything else, and, in general, seemed much distraught. For instance, she asked me no questions about objects _en route_, except that, when a sumptuous barouche passed us and raised a cloud of dust, she lifted her hand for a moment, and inquired, “What was that?” Yet even then she did not appear to hear my reply, although at times her abstraction was interrupted by sallies and fits of sharp, impatient fidgeting. Again, when I pointed out to her the Baron and Baroness Burmergelm walking to the Casino, she merely looked at them in an absent-minded sort of way, and said with complete indifference, “Ah!” Then, turning sharply to Potapitch and Martha, who were walking behind us, she rapped out: “Why have _you_ attached yourselves to the party? We are not going to take you with us every time. Go home at once.” Then, when the servants had pulled hasty bows and departed, she added to me: “You are all the escort I need.” At the Casino the Grandmother seemed to be expected, for no time was lost in procuring her former place beside the croupier. It is my opinion that though croupiers seem such ordinary, humdrum officials—men who care nothing whether the bank wins or loses—they are, in reality, anything but indifferent to the bank’s losing, and are given instructions to attract players, and to keep a watch over the bank’s interests; as also, that for such services, these officials are awarded prizes and premiums. At all events, the croupiers of Roulettenberg seemed to look upon the Grandmother as their lawful prey—whereafter there befell what our party had foretold. It happened thus: As soon as ever we arrived the Grandmother ordered me to stake twelve ten-gülden pieces in succession upon zero. Once, twice, and thrice I did so, yet zero never turned up. “Stake again,” said the old lady with an impatient nudge of my elbow, and I obeyed. “How many times have we lost?” she inquired—actually grinding her teeth in her excitement. “We have lost 144 ten-gülden pieces,” I replied. “I tell you, Madame, that zero may not turn up until nightfall.” “Never mind,” she interrupted. “Keep on staking upon zero, and also stake a thousand gülden upon rouge. Here is a banknote with which to do so.” The red turned up, but zero missed again, and we only got our thousand gülden back. “But you see, you see,” whispered the old lady. “We have now recovered almost all that we staked. Try zero again. Let us do so another ten times, and then leave off.” By the fifth round, however, the Grandmother was weary of the scheme. “To the devil with that zero!” she exclaimed. “Stake four thousand gülden upon the red.” “But, Madame, that will be so much to venture!” I remonstrated. “Suppose the red should not turn up?” The Grandmother almost...
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Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Enabling Destruction
The way well-meaning people become complicit in someone else's self-destruction by continuing to participate in behaviors they claim to oppose.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when your assistance is actually making someone's destructive behavior possible rather than preventing worse outcomes.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone asks for help with something that seems to repeat endlessly—ask yourself if your help is solving the problem or just delaying its natural consequences.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Terms to Know
Croupier
The casino employee who runs the roulette table, spins the wheel, and manages bets. They appear neutral but actually work to keep players gambling and protect the house's interests.
Modern Usage:
Like how customer service reps seem helpful but are really trained to upsell you, or how casinos today use loyalty programs to keep you playing.
Gulden
German currency used in 19th-century European casinos. The amounts the Grandmother loses represent enormous sums - enough to buy houses or support families for years.
Modern Usage:
When someone loses their house payment at the casino or maxes out credit cards gambling online.
Barouche
A fancy four-wheeled carriage that showed wealth and status in the 1800s. The Grandmother barely notices one passing, showing how gambling has consumed her attention completely.
Modern Usage:
Like scrolling past luxury cars on Instagram without caring because you're obsessed with checking your crypto portfolio.
Casino etiquette
The unwritten rules and social expectations around gambling behavior. Breaking these rules reveals someone as desperate or out of control, which the Grandmother increasingly does.
Modern Usage:
Like the difference between casual social drinking and obviously being an alcoholic at a work party - everyone can tell.
Enabler
Someone who helps or allows an addict to continue their destructive behavior, often thinking they're being helpful or kind. The narrator struggles with whether to keep helping the Grandmother gamble.
Modern Usage:
Like giving money to someone you know will spend it on drugs, or covering for a friend's drinking problem by making excuses for them.
Sunk cost fallacy
The mistaken belief that because you've already lost money, you should keep gambling to try to win it back. The Grandmother keeps betting bigger amounts to recover her losses.
Modern Usage:
Staying in a bad relationship because you've already invested five years, or throwing more money at a failing business.
Characters in This Chapter
The Grandmother
Tragic protagonist
Loses everything in a devastating gambling spree, becoming increasingly desperate and irrational. Her addiction destroys not just her fortune but her dignity and relationships.
Modern Equivalent:
The family member who empties their 401k day-trading meme stocks
Alexei Ivanovich
Conflicted enabler
Tries to help the Grandmother but realizes he's actually enabling her destruction. Finally finds the courage to walk away and refuse to participate in her self-destruction.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who finally stops lending money to someone with a gambling problem
De Griers
Opportunistic advisor
Attempts to guide the Grandmother's gambling strategy for his own benefit, but she blames him when his advice fails. Represents how people try to profit from others' addictions.
Modern Equivalent:
The financial advisor who pushes risky investments for higher commissions
Polina
Trapped dependent
Torn between escaping with the Grandmother and staying to protect her younger siblings. Shows how addiction affects entire families, not just the addict.
Modern Equivalent:
The adult child who can't leave home because they're supporting younger siblings
Potapitch
Loyal servant
Continues to serve the Grandmother even when the narrator refuses, showing how some people enable destructive behavior out of misguided loyalty.
Modern Equivalent:
The employee who covers for their boss's drinking problem to protect their job
Key Quotes & Analysis
"You are all the escort I need."
Context: She dismisses her servants, wanting only the narrator to witness her gambling
Shows how addiction isolates people and makes them push away those who might intervene. She only wants enablers around her, not people who might question her choices.
In Today's Words:
I only want people around me who won't judge my bad decisions.
"Why have you attached yourselves to the party? We are not going to take you with us every time."
Context: She snaps at her servants for following her to the casino
Reveals her irritability and shame about her gambling. She's becoming paranoid and defensive, typical behavior of someone losing control of their addiction.
In Today's Words:
Stop following me around and judging what I'm doing.
"I am going home tomorrow."
Context: After losing everything, she announces her immediate departure
This abrupt decision shows the crash that follows a gambling binge. She's fleeing in shame and trying to cut herself off from temptation, but the damage is already done.
In Today's Words:
I'm getting out of here before I mess up even worse.
Thematic Threads
Addiction
In This Chapter
The Grandmother's gambling spirals into complete compulsion, requiring others to facilitate her destruction
Development
Escalated from curiosity to obsession to total loss of control
In Your Life:
You might recognize this in how family members enable a relative's drinking or spending problems
Boundaries
In This Chapter
The narrator finally refuses to participate, returning money and walking away from the casino
Development
Introduced here as the healthy response to enabling
In Your Life:
You might need to set similar boundaries with friends who repeatedly make destructive choices
Class
In This Chapter
The family's financial schemes crumble as their inheritance disappears through gambling losses
Development
Continued theme of how money determines social position and family dynamics
In Your Life:
You might see this when family financial crises expose everyone's hidden agendas and dependencies
Responsibility
In This Chapter
Polina can't abandon her siblings despite the Grandmother's offer of escape to Moscow
Development
Ongoing theme of duty versus self-preservation
In Your Life:
You might face similar choices between your own wellbeing and family obligations
Consequences
In This Chapter
The Grandmother's losses affect everyone around her, destroying the family's financial future
Development
Escalated from personal choices to widespread destruction
In Your Life:
You might recognize how one person's addiction or poor decisions can devastate an entire family system
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific actions does the narrator take to try to help the Grandmother, and how do these actions actually make her gambling worse?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does the narrator continue to escort the Grandmother to the casino even though he can see she's destroying herself?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this pattern of 'helping someone hurt themselves' in modern families, workplaces, or relationships?
application • medium - 4
What would you have done differently if you were in the narrator's position, and what boundaries would you set?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about the difference between caring for someone and enabling their destructive behavior?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Enablement Patterns
Think of a situation where someone you care about repeatedly makes poor choices that hurt them. List three specific ways you've tried to 'help' them, then honestly evaluate whether each action made it easier or harder for them to continue the destructive behavior. Finally, write what boundary you could set that would show love without enabling.
Consider:
- •Consider how your good intentions might be funding bad outcomes
- •Think about the difference between rescuing someone and letting them learn from consequences
- •Reflect on whether you're helping them or helping yourself feel less guilty
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when someone refused to enable your poor choices. How did it feel in the moment, and how do you view their decision now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 13: The Aftermath of Ruin
What lies ahead teaches us crisis reveals people's true character and priorities, and shows us some people become more desperate when they lose everything. These patterns appear in literature and life alike.