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CENE III. A room in Polonius’s house.
Enter Laertes and Ophelia.
LAERTES.
My necessaries are embark’d. Farewell.
And, sister, as the winds give benefit
And convoy is assistant, do not sleep,
But let me hear from you.
OPHELIA.
Do you doubt that?
LAERTES.
For Hamlet, and the trifling of his favour,
Hold it a fashion and a toy in blood;
A violet in the youth of primy nature,
Forward, not permanent, sweet, not lasting;
The perfume and suppliance of a minute;
No more.
OPHELIA.
No more but so?
LAERTES.
Think it no more.
For nature crescent does not grow alone
In thews and bulk; but as this temple waxes,
The inward service of the mind and soul
Grows wide withal. Perhaps he loves you now,
And now no soil nor cautel doth besmirch
The virtue of his will; but you must fear,
His greatness weigh’d, his will is not his own;
For he himself is subject to his birth:
He may not, as unvalu’d persons do,
Carve for himself; for on his choice depends
The sanctity and health of this whole state;
And therefore must his choice be circumscrib’d
Unto the voice and yielding of that body
Whereof he is the head. Then if he says he loves you,
It fits your wisdom so far to believe it
As he in his particular act and place
May give his saying deed; which is no further
Than the main voice of Denmark goes withal.
Then weigh what loss your honour may sustain
If with too credent ear you list his songs,
Or lose your heart, or your chaste treasure open
To his unmaster’d importunity.
Fear it, Ophelia, fear it, my dear sister;
And keep you in the rear of your affection,
Out of the shot and danger of desire.
The chariest maid is prodigal enough
If she unmask her beauty to the moon.
Virtue itself ’scapes not calumnious strokes:
The canker galls the infants of the spring
Too oft before their buttons be disclos’d,
And in the morn and liquid dew of youth
Contagious blastments are most imminent.
Be wary then, best safety lies in fear.
Youth to itself rebels, though none else near.
OPHELIA.
I shall th’effect of this good lesson keep
As watchman to my heart. But good my brother,
Do not as some ungracious pastors do,
Show me the steep and thorny way to heaven;
Whilst like a puff’d and reckless libertine
Himself the primrose path of dalliance treads,
And recks not his own rede.
LAERTES.
O, fear me not.
I stay too long. But here my father comes.
Enter Polonius.
A double blessing is a double grace;
Occasion smiles upon a second leave.
POLONIUS.
Yet here, Laertes? Aboard, aboard, for shame.
The wind sits in the shoulder of your sail,
And you are stay’d for. There, my blessing with you.
[Laying his hand on Laertes’s head.]
And these few precepts in thy memory
Look thou character. Give thy thoughts no tongue,
Nor any unproportion’d thought his act.
Be thou familiar, but by no means vulgar.
Those friends thou hast, and their adoption tried,
Grapple them unto thy soul with hoops of steel;
But do not dull thy palm with entertainment
Of each new-hatch’d, unfledg’d comrade. Beware
Of entrance to a quarrel; but being in,
Bear’t that th’opposed may beware of thee.
Give every man thine ear, but few thy voice:
Take each man’s censure, but reserve thy judgement.
Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy,
But not express’d in fancy; rich, not gaudy:
For the apparel oft proclaims the man;
And they in France of the best rank and station
Are of a most select and generous chief in that.
Neither a borrower nor a lender be:
For loan oft loses both itself and friend;
And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry.
This above all: to thine own self be true;
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Farewell: my blessing season this in thee.
LAERTES.
Most humbly do I take my leave, my lord.
POLONIUS.
The time invites you; go, your servants tend.
LAERTES.
Farewell, Ophelia, and remember well
What I have said to you.
OPHELIA.
’Tis in my memory lock’d,
And you yourself shall keep the key of it.
LAERTES.
Farewell.
[Exit.]
POLONIUS.
What is’t, Ophelia, he hath said to you?
OPHELIA.
So please you, something touching the Lord Hamlet.
POLONIUS.
Marry, well bethought:
’Tis told me he hath very oft of late
Given private time to you; and you yourself
Have of your audience been most free and bounteous.
If it be so,—as so ’tis put on me,
And that in way of caution,—I must tell you
You do not understand yourself so clearly
As it behoves my daughter and your honour.
What is between you? Give me up the truth.
OPHELIA.
He hath, my lord, of late made many tenders
Of his affection to me.
POLONIUS.
Affection! Pooh! You speak like a green girl,
Unsifted in such perilous circumstance.
Do you believe his tenders, as you call them?
OPHELIA.
I do not know, my lord, what I should think.
POLONIUS.
Marry, I’ll teach you; think yourself a baby;
That you have ta’en these tenders for true pay,
Which are not sterling. Tender yourself more dearly;
Or,—not to crack the wind of the poor phrase,
Running it thus,—you’ll tender me a fool.
OPHELIA.
My lord, he hath importun’d me with love
In honourable fashion.
POLONIUS.
Ay, fashion you may call it; go to, go to.
OPHELIA.
And hath given countenance to his speech, my lord,
With almost all the holy vows of heaven.
POLONIUS.
Ay, springes to catch woodcocks. I do know,
When the blood burns, how prodigal the soul
Lends the tongue vows: these blazes, daughter,
Giving more light than heat, extinct in both,
Even in their promise, as it is a-making,
You must not take for fire. From this time
Be something scanter of your maiden presence;
Set your entreatments at a higher rate
Than a command to parley. For Lord Hamlet,
Believe so much in him that he is young;
And with a larger tether may he walk
Than may be given you. In few, Ophelia,
Do not believe his vows; for they are brokers,
Not of that dye which their investments show,
But mere implorators of unholy suits,
Breathing like sanctified and pious bawds,
The better to beguile. This is for all:
I would not, in plain terms, from this time forth
Have you so slander any moment leisure
As to give words or talk with the Lord Hamlet.
Look to’t, I charge you; come your ways.
OPHELIA.
I shall obey, my lord.
[Exeunt.]
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Let's Analyse the Pattern
People disguise their need for control as concern for others' wellbeing, especially when their own authority feels threatened.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when someone's advice is really about their own need for control or status protection.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone gives you guidance that contradicts itself—they're usually protecting their own position, not yours.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man."
Context: He's giving Laertes parting advice before he leaves for France.
This is one of Shakespeare's most famous quotes about integrity and authenticity. The irony is that Polonius immediately contradicts this by controlling Ophelia and later spying on his own son.
In Today's Words:
Be honest with yourself, and you'll naturally be honest with everyone else.
"His will is not his own; for he himself is subject to his birth."
Context: He's explaining to Ophelia why Hamlet can't freely choose who to marry.
This reveals the constraints of royal life and social class. Even princes aren't free to follow their hearts because their choices affect entire kingdoms and political alliances.
In Today's Words:
He can't do whatever he wants because of who his family is and what's expected of him.
"I shall obey, my lord."
Context: Her response after Polonius forbids her from seeing Hamlet.
These simple words show Ophelia's powerlessness. She can't argue or refuse - she can only submit to her father's will, even about her own romantic life and feelings.
In Today's Words:
Okay, Dad, I'll do what you say.
"Springes to catch woodcocks."
Context: He's dismissing Hamlet's declarations of love as tricks to seduce Ophelia.
Polonius assumes the worst about Hamlet's intentions and treats Ophelia like a foolish bird who will fall for any trap. This shows his cynical view of both young love and his daughter's intelligence.
In Today's Words:
Those are just lines he's using to get what he wants from you.
Thematic Threads
Power Dynamics
In This Chapter
Both men assert authority over Ophelia through 'wisdom' and commands, while she can only promise obedience
Development
Introduced here as family power structure that mirrors the political corruption in earlier chapters
In Your Life:
You might see this when family members or supervisors use their position to override your judgment 'for your own good.'
Betrayal
In This Chapter
Polonius betrays his own advice about being true to oneself by immediately forbidding Ophelia to trust her feelings
Development
Continues the theme of people not practicing what they preach, following Claudius's false mourning
In Your Life:
You might experience this when someone gives you advice they don't follow themselves, or uses your trust against you.
Family Loyalty
In This Chapter
Ophelia is trapped between competing family demands and her own desires, with loyalty used as a weapon of control
Development
Expands from Hamlet's conflicted family loyalty to show how families manipulate through obligation
In Your Life:
You might feel this when family members use guilt or duty to pressure you into choices that serve them more than you.
Moral Corruption
In This Chapter
Good intentions (protection) become corrupted into control, with the controllers blind to their own contradictions
Development
Continues the pattern of corruption spreading through relationships, not just politics
In Your Life:
You might notice this when your own desire to help someone becomes a need to control their choices.
Indecision
In This Chapter
Ophelia is paralyzed between her feelings for Hamlet and her family's commands, unable to trust her own judgment
Development
Mirrors Hamlet's paralysis but shows how external control can create internal confusion
In Your Life:
You might feel this when too many people are giving you conflicting advice about an important decision.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific advice do Laertes and Polonius give, and how do their actions contradict their words?
analysis • surface - 2
Why do both men claim they're protecting Ophelia when they're really controlling her choices?
analysis • medium - 3
Where have you seen someone disguise control as protection in your workplace, family, or community?
application • medium - 4
How would you respond if someone used 'I'm just looking out for you' to override your own judgment about a decision?
application • deep - 5
What makes it so hard to recognize when our own protective instincts cross the line into controlling behavior?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Decode the Real Message
Think of a recent situation where someone gave you advice or expressed concern about your choices. Write down what they said, then underneath write what they might have really been protecting (their reputation, control, worldview, or fears). Look for the gap between their stated concern and their underlying motivation.
Consider:
- •People can genuinely care about you AND still be protecting themselves
- •The advice-giver might not even realize their mixed motives
- •Your job isn't to fix their fears, just to recognize the pattern
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you realized someone's 'helpful advice' was really about their own needs. How did that recognition change how you handled the situation?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 5: The Ghost Appears
Meanwhile, on the castle battlements, Hamlet keeps his promise to meet the ghost. The dead king's spirit finally reveals the shocking truth about his death - and demands a terrible price for justice.




