Summary
Laertes prepares to leave for France but first warns his sister Ophelia about Hamlet's romantic interest. He tells her that princes can't marry for love - their choices affect entire kingdoms. His advice sounds protective, but it's really about family reputation and his own assumptions about women's weakness. When their father Polonius arrives, he gives Laertes classic parental wisdom: be yourself, choose friends carefully, listen more than you speak, and never borrow or lend money. These famous lines ('To thine own self be true') sound noble, but Polonius immediately contradicts himself by interrogating Ophelia about Hamlet and forbidding her from seeing him. Both men claim to protect Ophelia while actually controlling her. Polonius dismisses Hamlet's declarations of love as manipulation, calling them 'springes to catch woodcocks' - traps for naive birds. Ophelia, caught between her brother's warnings and her father's commands, can only promise to obey. This scene reveals how families often disguise control as care, especially toward women. The men assume they know better than Ophelia about her own feelings and Hamlet's intentions. Their 'wisdom' reflects their fears about family honor and social position more than genuine concern for her happiness. Shakespeare shows how advice can be a weapon, and how those who preach virtue don't always practice it themselves.
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Meanwhile, on the castle battlements, Hamlet keeps his promise to meet the ghost. The dead king's spirit finally reveals the shocking truth about his death - and demands a terrible price for justice.
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SCENE III. A room in Polonius’s house. Enter Laertes and Ophelia. LAERTES. My necessaries are embark’d. Farewell. And, sister, as the winds give benefit And convoy is assistant, do not sleep, But let me hear from you. OPHELIA. Do you doubt that? LAERTES. For Hamlet, and the trifling of his favour, Hold it a fashion and a toy in blood; A violet in the youth of primy nature, Forward, not permanent, sweet, not lasting; The perfume and suppliance of a minute; No more. OPHELIA. No more but so? LAERTES. Think it no more. For nature crescent does not grow alone In thews and bulk; but as this temple waxes, The inward service of the mind and soul Grows wide withal. Perhaps he loves you now, And now no soil nor cautel doth besmirch The virtue of his will; but you must fear, His greatness weigh’d, his will is not his own; For he himself is subject to his birth: He may not, as unvalu’d persons do, Carve for himself; for on his choice depends The sanctity and health of this whole state; And therefore must his choice be circumscrib’d Unto the voice and yielding of that body Whereof he is the head. Then if he says he loves you, It fits your wisdom so far to believe it As he in his particular act and place May give his saying deed; which is no further Than the main voice of Denmark goes withal. Then weigh what loss your honour may sustain If with too credent ear you list his songs, Or lose your heart, or your chaste treasure open To his unmaster’d importunity. Fear it, Ophelia, fear it, my dear sister; And keep you in the rear of your affection, Out of the shot and danger of desire. The chariest maid is prodigal enough If she unmask her beauty to the moon. Virtue itself ’scapes not calumnious strokes: The canker galls the infants of the spring Too oft before their buttons be disclos’d, And in the morn and liquid dew of youth Contagious blastments are most imminent. Be wary then, best safety lies in fear. Youth to itself rebels, though none else near. OPHELIA. I shall th’effect of this good lesson keep As watchman to my heart. But good my brother, Do not as some ungracious pastors do, Show me the steep and thorny way to heaven; Whilst like a puff’d and reckless libertine Himself the primrose path of dalliance treads, And recks not his own rede. LAERTES. O, fear me not. I stay too long. But here my father comes. Enter Polonius. A double blessing is a double grace; Occasion smiles upon a second leave. POLONIUS. Yet here, Laertes? Aboard, aboard, for shame. The wind sits in the shoulder of your sail, And you are stay’d for. There, my blessing with you. [_Laying his hand on Laertes’s head._] And these few precepts in thy memory Look thou character. Give thy thoughts no tongue, Nor any unproportion’d thought his act....
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Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Protective Control
People disguise their need for control as concern for others' wellbeing, especially when their own authority feels threatened.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when someone's advice is really about their own need for control or status protection.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone gives you guidance that contradicts itself—they're usually protecting their own position, not yours.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Terms to Know
Courtly Love
The medieval and Renaissance idea that romantic love should be noble, pure, and often impossible to fulfill. It was considered the highest form of love, but usually involved worshipping someone from afar rather than actual relationships.
Modern Usage:
We still romanticize the idea of 'pure' love in movies and songs, but it often sets unrealistic expectations for real relationships.
Arranged Marriage
Marriages decided by families rather than the couple, usually based on social status, wealth, or political advantage. Love was considered less important than family honor and financial security.
Modern Usage:
While rare in America, we still see families pressuring their children about who to date or marry based on religion, race, or social class.
Patriarchal Authority
A system where fathers and male relatives have complete control over women's lives, including who they marry, where they go, and what they do. Women were expected to obey without question.
Modern Usage:
Though women have more rights now, many still face family pressure about career choices, relationships, and life decisions from male relatives.
Honor Culture
A social system where family reputation is everything. One person's behavior reflects on the entire family, so everyone must act to protect the family name and social standing.
Modern Usage:
We see this in communities where family reputation still matters intensely, and in social media culture where one mistake can damage your whole family's image.
Double Standard
Different rules for men and women, where men's behavior is excused or celebrated while women face harsh judgment for the same actions. Men were expected to gain experience while women were expected to remain pure.
Modern Usage:
This still exists in how we judge women's sexuality, ambition, and behavior differently than men's in dating, work, and public life.
Springes to Catch Woodcocks
A metaphor Polonius uses meaning traps set for foolish birds. He's saying Hamlet's love declarations are tricks to seduce naive young women like Ophelia.
Modern Usage:
We use similar phrases like 'player' or 'smooth talker' to describe someone who uses charm to manipulate others romantically.
Characters in This Chapter
Laertes
Protective brother
He warns Ophelia that Hamlet can't marry for love because princes must choose wives based on political needs. He genuinely cares about her but assumes she's too naive to understand men's intentions.
Modern Equivalent:
The overprotective big brother who thinks no guy is good enough for his sister
Ophelia
Obedient daughter
She's caught between her brother's warnings and her father's commands about Hamlet. She has her own feelings but must promise to obey the men in her family rather than make her own choices.
Modern Equivalent:
The young woman torn between family expectations and her own desires
Polonius
Controlling father
He gives famous advice about being true to yourself, then immediately contradicts it by forbidding Ophelia from seeing Hamlet. He claims to protect her but really wants to control her and protect family reputation.
Modern Equivalent:
The helicopter parent who preaches independence but micromanages every decision
Hamlet
Absent love interest
Though not present, he's the subject of all conversation. Both men assume his romantic intentions are either temporary or manipulative, showing how they view both Hamlet and Ophelia.
Modern Equivalent:
The guy your family doesn't trust and warns you about
Key Quotes & Analysis
"To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man."
Context: He's giving Laertes parting advice before he leaves for France.
This is one of Shakespeare's most famous quotes about integrity and authenticity. The irony is that Polonius immediately contradicts this by controlling Ophelia and later spying on his own son.
In Today's Words:
Be honest with yourself, and you'll naturally be honest with everyone else.
"His will is not his own; for he himself is subject to his birth."
Context: He's explaining to Ophelia why Hamlet can't freely choose who to marry.
This reveals the constraints of royal life and social class. Even princes aren't free to follow their hearts because their choices affect entire kingdoms and political alliances.
In Today's Words:
He can't do whatever he wants because of who his family is and what's expected of him.
"I shall obey, my lord."
Context: Her response after Polonius forbids her from seeing Hamlet.
These simple words show Ophelia's powerlessness. She can't argue or refuse - she can only submit to her father's will, even about her own romantic life and feelings.
In Today's Words:
Okay, Dad, I'll do what you say.
"Springes to catch woodcocks."
Context: He's dismissing Hamlet's declarations of love as tricks to seduce Ophelia.
Polonius assumes the worst about Hamlet's intentions and treats Ophelia like a foolish bird who will fall for any trap. This shows his cynical view of both young love and his daughter's intelligence.
In Today's Words:
Those are just lines he's using to get what he wants from you.
Thematic Threads
Power Dynamics
In This Chapter
Both men assert authority over Ophelia through 'wisdom' and commands, while she can only promise obedience
Development
Introduced here as family power structure that mirrors the political corruption in earlier chapters
In Your Life:
You might see this when family members or supervisors use their position to override your judgment 'for your own good.'
Betrayal
In This Chapter
Polonius betrays his own advice about being true to oneself by immediately forbidding Ophelia to trust her feelings
Development
Continues the theme of people not practicing what they preach, following Claudius's false mourning
In Your Life:
You might experience this when someone gives you advice they don't follow themselves, or uses your trust against you.
Family Loyalty
In This Chapter
Ophelia is trapped between competing family demands and her own desires, with loyalty used as a weapon of control
Development
Expands from Hamlet's conflicted family loyalty to show how families manipulate through obligation
In Your Life:
You might feel this when family members use guilt or duty to pressure you into choices that serve them more than you.
Moral Corruption
In This Chapter
Good intentions (protection) become corrupted into control, with the controllers blind to their own contradictions
Development
Continues the pattern of corruption spreading through relationships, not just politics
In Your Life:
You might notice this when your own desire to help someone becomes a need to control their choices.
Indecision
In This Chapter
Ophelia is paralyzed between her feelings for Hamlet and her family's commands, unable to trust her own judgment
Development
Mirrors Hamlet's paralysis but shows how external control can create internal confusion
In Your Life:
You might feel this when too many people are giving you conflicting advice about an important decision.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific advice do Laertes and Polonius give, and how do their actions contradict their words?
analysis • surface - 2
Why do both men claim they're protecting Ophelia when they're really controlling her choices?
analysis • medium - 3
Where have you seen someone disguise control as protection in your workplace, family, or community?
application • medium - 4
How would you respond if someone used 'I'm just looking out for you' to override your own judgment about a decision?
application • deep - 5
What makes it so hard to recognize when our own protective instincts cross the line into controlling behavior?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Decode the Real Message
Think of a recent situation where someone gave you advice or expressed concern about your choices. Write down what they said, then underneath write what they might have really been protecting (their reputation, control, worldview, or fears). Look for the gap between their stated concern and their underlying motivation.
Consider:
- •People can genuinely care about you AND still be protecting themselves
- •The advice-giver might not even realize their mixed motives
- •Your job isn't to fix their fears, just to recognize the pattern
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you realized someone's 'helpful advice' was really about their own needs. How did that recognition change how you handled the situation?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 5: The Ghost Appears
In the next chapter, you'll discover one person's reputation can affect an entire group, and learn friends try to protect you from dangerous decisions. These insights reveal timeless patterns that resonate in our own lives and relationships.