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n the third day after Christmas Nicholas dined at home, a thing he had
rarely done of late. It was a grand farewell dinner, as he and Denísov
were leaving to join their regiment after Epiphany. About twenty people
were present, including Dólokhov and Denísov.
Never had love been so much in the air, and never had the amorous
atmosphere made itself so strongly felt in the Rostóvs’ house as at
this holiday time. “Seize the moments of happiness, love and be loved!
That is the only reality in the world, all else is folly. It is the one
thing we are interested in here,” said the spirit of the place.
Nicholas, having as usual exhausted two pairs of horses, without
visiting all the places he meant to go to and where he had been invited,
returned home just before dinner. As soon as he entered he noticed and
felt the tension of the amorous air in the house, and also noticed a
curious embarrassment among some of those present. Sónya, Dólokhov,
and the old countess were especially disturbed, and to a lesser degree
Natásha. Nicholas understood that something must have happened between
Sónya and Dólokhov before dinner, and with the kindly sensitiveness
natural to him was very gentle and wary with them both at dinner. On
that same evening there was to be one of the balls that Iogel (the
dancing master) gave for his pupils during the holidays.
“Nicholas, will you come to Iogel’s? Please do!” said Natásha.
“He asked you, and Vasíli Dmítrich * is also going.”
* Denísov.
“Where would I not go at the countess’ command!” said Denísov,
who at the Rostóvs’ had jocularly assumed the role of Natásha’s
knight. “I’m even weady to dance the pas de châle.”
“If I have time,” answered Nicholas. “But I promised the
Arkhárovs; they have a party.”
“And you?” he asked Dólokhov, but as soon as he had asked the
question he noticed that it should not have been put.
“Perhaps,” coldly and angrily replied Dólokhov, glancing at Sónya,
and, scowling, he gave Nicholas just such a look as he had given Pierre
at the club dinner.
“There is something up,” thought Nicholas, and he was further
confirmed in this conclusion by the fact that Dólokhov left immediately
after dinner. He called Natásha and asked her what was the matter.
“And I was looking for you,” said Natásha running out to him. “I
told you, but you would not believe it,” she said triumphantly. “He
has proposed to Sónya!”
Little as Nicholas had occupied himself with Sónya of late, something
seemed to give way within him at this news. Dólokhov was a suitable and
in some respects a brilliant match for the dowerless, orphan girl. From
the point of view of the old countess and of society it was out of the
question for her to refuse him. And therefore Nicholas’ first feeling
on hearing the news was one of anger with Sónya.... He tried to say,
“That’s capital; of course she’ll forget her childish promises
and accept the offer,” but before he had time to say it Natásha began
again.
“And fancy! she refused him quite definitely!” adding, after a
pause, “she told him she loved another.”
“Yes, my Sónya could not have done otherwise!” thought Nicholas.
“Much as Mamma pressed her, she refused, and I know she won’t change
once she has said...”
“And Mamma pressed her!” said Nicholas reproachfully.
“Yes,” said Natásha. “Do you know, Nicholas—don’t be
angry—but I know you will not marry her. I know, heaven knows how, but
I know for certain that you won’t marry her.”
“Now you don’t know that at all!” said Nicholas. “But I must
talk to her. What a darling Sónya is!” he added with a smile.
“Ah, she is indeed a darling! I’ll send her to you.”
And Natásha kissed her brother and ran away.
A minute later Sónya came in with a frightened, guilty, and scared
look. Nicholas went up to her and kissed her hand. This was the first
time since his return that they had talked alone and about their love.
“Sophie,” he began, timidly at first and then more and more
boldly, “if you wish to refuse one who is not only a brilliant and
advantageous match but a splendid, noble fellow... he is my friend...”
Sónya interrupted him.
“I have already refused,” she said hurriedly.
“If you are refusing for my sake, I am afraid that I...”
Sónya again interrupted. She gave him an imploring, frightened look.
“Nicholas, don’t tell me that!” she said.
“No, but I must. It may be arrogant of me, but still it is best to say
it. If you refuse him on my account, I must tell you the whole truth. I
love you, and I think I love you more than anyone else....”
“That is enough for me,” said Sónya, blushing.
“No, but I have been in love a thousand times and shall fall in
love again, though for no one have I such a feeling of friendship,
confidence, and love as I have for you. Then I am young. Mamma does
not wish it. In a word, I make no promise. And I beg you to consider
Dólokhov’s offer,” he said, articulating his friend’s name with
difficulty.
“Don’t say that to me! I want nothing. I love you as a brother and
always shall, and I want nothing more.”
“You are an angel: I am not worthy of you, but I am afraid of
misleading you.”
And Nicholas again kissed her hand.
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Let's Analyse the Pattern
When genuine care means choosing difficult honesty over comfortable deception, both for yourself and others.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how genuine care means giving people accurate information to make their own choices, not managing their decisions for them.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you're tempted to 'protect' someone by withholding information or making choices for them—practice stating your reality clearly instead.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Seize the moments of happiness, love and be loved! That is the only reality in the world, all else is folly."
Context: Describing the romantic atmosphere in the Rostóv house during the holidays
This captures the intoxicating feeling when love is in the air and everything else seems unimportant. It's the spirit of the moment that makes everyone act on their feelings.
In Today's Words:
Life's short - follow your heart because love is what really matters.
"I have loved you, and it would be hard for me to love another."
Context: Speaking honestly to Sónya about his feelings while trying to be realistic about their future
Nicholas shows emotional maturity by acknowledging both his deep feelings and his limitations. He's not making promises he can't keep or manipulating her emotions.
In Today's Words:
You mean more to me than anyone else has, but I can't promise you forever right now.
"I don't want anything. I love you as a brother and always shall, and I want nothing more."
Context: Responding to Nicholas's honest but painful conversation about their relationship
Sónya shows incredible dignity and self-respect. She's not begging for more or trying to change his mind - she's accepting the situation with grace while protecting her own heart.
In Today's Words:
I'm not asking for anything from you. I care about you, and that's enough for me.
Thematic Threads
Class
In This Chapter
Sónya's orphaned, penniless status makes Dólokhov's proposal seem like her only chance for security
Development
Continues the theme of how economic position shapes romantic choices
In Your Life:
You might face pressure to accept opportunities based on financial need rather than personal fit
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Society expects Sónya to accept Dólokhov's brilliant offer regardless of her feelings
Development
Builds on previous examples of social pressure overriding personal choice
In Your Life:
You might feel pressure to make 'practical' choices that others think are obviously right for you
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Both Nicholas and Sónya show emotional maturity by choosing honesty over manipulation
Development
Shows how characters are learning to handle complex emotions responsibly
In Your Life:
You might find that being direct about your limitations actually strengthens relationships
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Nicholas and Sónya navigate the tension between romantic feelings and practical realities
Development
Explores how genuine care sometimes means making difficult choices
In Your Life:
You might need to have honest conversations about what you can actually offer someone you care about
Identity
In This Chapter
Sónya defines herself by her authentic feelings rather than accepting society's definition of her options
Development
Shows a character choosing self-determination over external expectations
In Your Life:
You might need to assert who you really are instead of accepting others' assumptions about what you should want
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Why does Nicholas feel conflicted when he learns Sónya refused Dólokhov's proposal?
analysis • surface - 2
What makes Nicholas's conversation with Sónya both honest and painful? What would have been the 'easier' thing for each of them to say?
analysis • medium - 3
Think of a workplace or family situation where someone had to choose between what felt right and what seemed practical. How did competing loyalties play out?
application • medium - 4
When is it actually kinder to be brutally honest with someone rather than protecting their feelings? How do you know the difference?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter suggest about the relationship between love and freedom? Can you truly love someone while trying to control their choices?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Competing Loyalties
Think of a current situation where you feel torn between what you want and what seems practical or expected. Draw two columns: 'Heart Says' and 'Head Says.' List the competing voices, then identify whose approval or disapproval you're most worried about. Finally, write what completely honest communication would sound like in this situation.
Consider:
- •Notice how much mental energy goes into managing other people's potential reactions
- •Consider whether you're making decisions for someone else that they should make themselves
- •Ask if your 'practical' choice is actually practical, or just familiar
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when someone was completely honest with you about their limitations or feelings, even though it was uncomfortable. How did that honesty affect your relationship in the long run?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 80: Dancing Into Love at the Ball
The evening's ball awaits, but the emotional revelations have shifted everything. How will these new truths affect the relationships as the characters navigate the social expectations of the dance floor?
