Summary
Prince Andrew prepares to leave for war, and every interaction reveals the complex web of family relationships beneath the surface. His sister Mary desperately tries to bridge the gap between him and his pregnant wife Lise, but Andrew's polite indifference toward his marriage becomes painfully clear. Mary, ever the peacemaker, gives Andrew a religious icon for protection—a gesture that highlights her deep faith against his skepticism. The chapter's emotional core comes in Andrew's final conversation with his harsh but loving father, where both men struggle to express their fears about separation and death. The old prince's gruff exterior cracks just enough to show his terror of losing his son, while Andrew reveals his own doubts about his loveless marriage. When Andrew finally says goodbye to his wife, her dramatic fainting spell feels performative rather than genuine, underscoring the emotional distance between them. The chapter masterfully shows how families navigate love, duty, and unspoken truths when facing uncertainty. Tolstoy reveals that sometimes the people who know us best are the ones we find hardest to be honest with, and that ritual—like Mary's icon—can carry the weight of feelings too complex for words.
Coming Up in Chapter 29
The scene shifts to the broader canvas of war as we enter Book Two, where personal dramas intersect with the grand sweep of history. The intimate family dynamics we've witnessed will soon collide with the chaos of 1805's military campaigns.
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Prince Andrew was to leave next evening. The old prince, not altering his routine, retired as usual after dinner. The little princess was in her sister-in-law’s room. Prince Andrew in a traveling coat without epaulettes had been packing with his valet in the rooms assigned to him. After inspecting the carriage himself and seeing the trunks put in, he ordered the horses to be harnessed. Only those things he always kept with him remained in his room; a small box, a large canteen fitted with silver plate, two Turkish pistols and a saber—a present from his father who had brought it from the siege of Ochákov. All these traveling effects of Prince Andrew’s were in very good order: new, clean, and in cloth covers carefully tied with tapes. When starting on a journey or changing their mode of life, men capable of reflection are generally in a serious frame of mind. At such moments one reviews the past and plans for the future. Prince Andrew’s face looked very thoughtful and tender. With his hands behind him he paced briskly from corner to corner of the room, looking straight before him and thoughtfully shaking his head. Did he fear going to the war, or was he sad at leaving his wife?—perhaps both, but evidently he did not wish to be seen in that mood, for hearing footsteps in the passage he hurriedly unclasped his hands, stopped at a table as if tying the cover of the small box, and assumed his usual tranquil and impenetrable expression. It was the heavy tread of Princess Mary that he heard. “I hear you have given orders to harness,” she cried, panting (she had apparently been running), “and I did so wish to have another talk with you alone! God knows how long we may again be parted. You are not angry with me for coming? You have changed so, Andrúsha,” she added, as if to explain such a question. She smiled as she uttered his pet name, “Andrúsha.” It was obviously strange to her to think that this stern handsome man should be Andrúsha—the slender mischievous boy who had been her playfellow in childhood. “And where is Lise?” he asked, answering her question only by a smile. “She was so tired that she has fallen asleep on the sofa in my room. Oh, Andrew! What a treasure of a wife you have,” said she, sitting down on the sofa, facing her brother. “She is quite a child: such a dear, merry child. I have grown so fond of her.” Prince Andrew was silent, but the princess noticed the ironical and contemptuous look that showed itself on his face. “One must be indulgent to little weaknesses; who is free from them, Andrew? Don’t forget that she has grown up and been educated in society, and so her position now is not a rosy one. We should enter into everyone’s situation. Tout comprendre, c’est tout pardonner. * Think what it must be for her, poor thing,...
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Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Emotional Distance - When Love Gets Buried Under Duty
When fear of vulnerability makes us perform care instead of feeling it, creating distance disguised as devotion.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to distinguish between genuine care and going through the motions in family relationships.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you're saying what you're supposed to say versus what you actually feel—then try sharing one real emotion with someone safe.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Terms to Know
Epaulettes
Decorative shoulder pieces on military uniforms that show rank and status. Prince Andrew removes his before packing, symbolically shedding his peacetime identity. They represent the formal trappings of military hierarchy.
Modern Usage:
Like taking off your work badge or uniform at the end of a shift - it's about transitioning between different roles in your life.
Valet
A personal male servant who helps with dressing, packing, and daily tasks for wealthy men. Shows the class divide of Russian aristocracy. The valet handles intimate duties that reveal the master's private world.
Modern Usage:
Similar to a personal assistant or house manager - someone who handles the details so you can focus on bigger things.
Icon (religious)
A sacred painting or image used in Orthodox Christianity for prayer and protection. Mary gives Andrew an icon as a spiritual shield for war. It represents faith, tradition, and a mother's desperate hope to keep her loved one safe.
Modern Usage:
Like a lucky charm, St. Christopher medal, or family photo carried for protection - something physical that holds emotional power.
Siege of Ochákov
A famous Russian military victory from 1788 where Andrew's father fought. The saber from this battle represents family military tradition and honor. It connects Andrew to his father's legacy of service and courage.
Modern Usage:
Like inheriting your grandfather's Purple Heart or police badge - family artifacts that carry stories of duty and sacrifice.
Frame of mind
Your mental and emotional state at a particular moment. Tolstoy notes that people get reflective when facing major life changes. It's about how circumstances shape our inner thoughts and feelings.
Modern Usage:
Your headspace or mindset - like how you feel different before starting a new job, moving, or facing a major decision.
Ritual farewell
The formal customs and ceremonies around saying goodbye, especially before dangerous journeys. Each family member has their role to play. These rituals help people process emotions too big for regular conversation.
Modern Usage:
Like graduation ceremonies, wedding traditions, or funeral rites - structured ways to handle life's big transitions.
Characters in This Chapter
Prince Andrew
Protagonist preparing for war
He's methodically packing and preparing to leave for battle, but his careful attention to belongings masks deeper emotional turmoil. His polite distance from his pregnant wife reveals a marriage lacking genuine connection, while his interactions with family show the weight of duty versus personal feelings.
Modern Equivalent:
The spouse who throws themselves into work travel to avoid dealing with relationship problems
Princess Mary
Peacemaking sister
She desperately tries to create harmony between Andrew and his wife, giving him a religious icon for protection. Her deep faith contrasts with his skepticism, but her gesture shows how family members try to bridge emotional gaps through ritual and tradition.
Modern Equivalent:
The family member who always tries to fix everyone's relationships and smooth over conflicts
The old prince (Andrew's father)
Stern but loving patriarch
He maintains his rigid routine but his gruff exterior barely conceals his terror of losing his son to war. His final conversation with Andrew reveals the difficulty both men have expressing their deepest fears and love for each other.
Modern Equivalent:
The tough-love parent who shows care through criticism because they don't know how to be vulnerable
Little Princess (Lise)
Emotionally distant wife
Andrew's pregnant wife whose dramatic fainting spell feels performative rather than genuine. Her theatrical response to his departure highlights the artificial nature of their relationship and her inability to connect with him on a deeper level.
Modern Equivalent:
The partner who creates drama for attention because real intimacy feels impossible
Key Quotes & Analysis
"When starting on a journey or changing their mode of life, men capable of reflection are generally in a serious frame of mind."
Context: As Andrew prepares for war, pacing his room thoughtfully
Tolstoy reveals how major life transitions force us to confront our deeper thoughts and feelings. Andrew's careful packing is really about processing the enormity of what he's facing - possible death, leaving family, escaping an unhappy marriage.
In Today's Words:
Big life changes make you think about everything - your past, your future, what really matters.
"Did he fear going to the war, or was he sad at leaving his wife?—perhaps both, but evidently he did not wish to be seen in that mood."
Context: Observing Andrew's private moment of vulnerability before others arrive
This captures the complexity of Andrew's emotions and his need to maintain composure. He's facing multiple fears - death in battle and the emptiness of his marriage - but social expectations require him to hide these feelings.
In Today's Words:
He was scared and sad about multiple things, but didn't want anyone to see him falling apart.
"All these traveling effects of Prince Andrew's were in very good order: new, clean, and in cloth covers carefully tied with tapes."
Context: Describing Andrew's meticulous preparation for departure
The obsessive attention to material details reveals Andrew's attempt to control what he can when facing the uncontrollable. His careful organization of belongings represents his need for order in the face of chaos and uncertainty.
In Today's Words:
Everything was perfectly organized and spotless - the way people clean house when their life is falling apart.
Thematic Threads
Class
In This Chapter
Aristocratic duty requires emotional restraint - Andrew must be proper even when his heart is elsewhere
Development
Evolved from earlier chapters showing how class expectations shape personal behavior
In Your Life:
You might feel pressured to act 'professional' even when you're struggling personally at work.
Identity
In This Chapter
Andrew struggles between who he's supposed to be (dutiful husband/son) and who he actually is (skeptical, distant)
Development
Deepened from his earlier social interactions to now affect intimate family relationships
In Your Life:
You might find yourself playing different versions of yourself with different people instead of being authentic.
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Family rituals (the icon, formal goodbyes) carry weight beyond their participants' actual beliefs
Development
Extended from party manners to family dynamics and religious observance
In Your Life:
You might go through holiday traditions or family customs that feel empty but seem too important to others to skip.
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Love exists but can't be expressed directly - shown through Mary's desperate peacemaking and the father's hidden terror
Development
Introduced here as counterpoint to the shallow social connections shown earlier
In Your Life:
You might struggle to say 'I love you' or 'I'm scared' to the people who matter most.
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Andrew's self-awareness about his loveless marriage shows growth, but he still can't act on that knowledge
Development
Building from his earlier social observations to deeper self-reflection
In Your Life:
You might recognize patterns in your life but feel stuck about how to change them.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What does Andrew's behavior toward each family member reveal about his emotional state as he prepares for war?
analysis • surface - 2
Why do you think Andrew accepts Mary's religious icon even though he doesn't share her faith?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this pattern of 'going through the motions' in modern relationships - at work, home, or in friendships?
application • medium - 4
When someone is emotionally distant but still fulfilling their duties, how can you tell the difference between genuine care and performance?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter suggest about why people sometimes find it hardest to be honest with the people who know them best?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Rewrite the Goodbye Scene
Choose one of Andrew's goodbye conversations (with Mary, his father, or Lise) and rewrite it as if both people decided to drop their emotional defenses and speak honestly about their fears. What would they actually say if they weren't protecting themselves or performing their roles?
Consider:
- •What is each person really afraid of beneath their polite or dutiful words?
- •How might the relationship change if they spoke these truths out loud?
- •What risks would they be taking by being completely honest?
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you went through the motions in an important relationship instead of being real. What were you protecting yourself from? What might have happened if you had been completely honest?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 29: The Inspection That Backfired
Moving forward, we'll examine perfectionism can backfire when you're solving the wrong problem, and understand understanding the real agenda matters more than following orders literally. These insights bridge the gap between classic literature and modern experience.