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t the beginning of winter Prince Nicholas Bolkónski and his daughter
moved to Moscow. At that time enthusiasm for the Emperor Alexander’s
regime had weakened and a patriotic and anti-French tendency prevailed
there, and this, together with his past and his intellect and his
originality, at once made Prince Nicholas Bolkónski an object of
particular respect to the Moscovites and the center of the Moscow
opposition to the government.
The prince had aged very much that year. He showed marked signs of
senility by a tendency to fall asleep, forgetfulness of quite recent
events, remembrance of remote ones, and the childish vanity with which
he accepted the role of head of the Moscow opposition. In spite of this
the old man inspired in all his visitors alike a feeling of respectful
veneration—especially of an evening when he came in to tea in his
old-fashioned coat and powdered wig and, aroused by anyone, told his
abrupt stories of the past, or uttered yet more abrupt and scathing
criticisms of the present. For them all, that old-fashioned house with
its gigantic mirrors, pre-Revolution furniture, powdered footmen, and
the stern shrewd old man (himself a relic of the past century) with his
gentle daughter and the pretty Frenchwoman who were reverently devoted
to him presented a majestic and agreeable spectacle. But the visitors
did not reflect that besides the couple of hours during which they saw
their host, there were also twenty-two hours in the day during which the
private and intimate life of the house continued.
Latterly that private life had become very trying for Princess Mary.
There in Moscow she was deprived of her greatest pleasures—talks with
the pilgrims and the solitude which refreshed her at Bald Hills—and
she had none of the advantages and pleasures of city life. She did not
go out into society; everyone knew that her father would not let her
go anywhere without him, and his failing health prevented his going out
himself, so that she was not invited to dinners and evening parties. She
had quite abandoned the hope of getting married. She saw the coldness
and malevolence with which the old prince received and dismissed the
young men, possible suitors, who sometimes appeared at their house. She
had no friends: during this visit to Moscow she had been disappointed in
the two who had been nearest to her. Mademoiselle Bourienne, with whom
she had never been able to be quite frank, had now become unpleasant to
her, and for various reasons Princess Mary avoided her. Julie, with whom
she had corresponded for the last five years, was in Moscow, but proved
to be quite alien to her when they met. Just then Julie, who by the
death of her brothers had become one of the richest heiresses in Moscow,
was in the full whirl of society pleasures. She was surrounded by young
men who, she fancied, had suddenly learned to appreciate her worth.
Julie was at that stage in the life of a society woman when she feels
that her last chance of marrying has come and that her fate must be
decided now or never. On Thursdays Princess Mary remembered with a
mournful smile that she now had no one to write to, since Julie—whose
presence gave her no pleasure was here and they met every week. Like the
old émigré who declined to marry the lady with whom he had spent his
evenings for years, she regretted Julie’s presence and having no one
to write to. In Moscow Princess Mary had no one to talk to, no one to
whom to confide her sorrow, and much sorrow fell to her lot just then.
The time for Prince Andrew’s return and marriage was approaching, but
his request to her to prepare his father for it had not been carried
out; in fact, it seemed as if matters were quite hopeless, for at every
mention of the young Countess Rostóva the old prince (who apart from
that was usually in a bad temper) lost control of himself. Another
lately added sorrow arose from the lessons she gave her six year-old
nephew. To her consternation she detected in herself in relation to
little Nicholas some symptoms of her father’s irritability. However
often she told herself that she must not get irritable when teaching her
nephew, almost every time that, pointer in hand, she sat down to show
him the French alphabet, she so longed to pour her own knowledge quickly
and easily into the child—who was already afraid that Auntie might at
any moment get angry—that at his slightest inattention she trembled,
became flustered and heated, raised her voice, and sometimes pulled him
by the arm and put him in the corner. Having put him in the corner
she would herself begin to cry over her cruel, evil nature, and little
Nicholas, following her example, would sob, and without permission would
leave his corner, come to her, pull her wet hands from her face, and
comfort her. But what distressed the princess most of all was her
father’s irritability, which was always directed against her and had
of late amounted to cruelty. Had he forced her to prostrate herself to
the ground all night, had he beaten her or made her fetch wood or water,
it would never have entered her mind to think her position hard; but
this loving despot—the more cruel because he loved her and for that
reason tormented himself and her—knew how not merely to hurt and
humiliate her deliberately, but to show her that she was always to blame
for everything. Of late he had exhibited a new trait that tormented
Princess Mary more than anything else; this was his ever-increasing
intimacy with Mademoiselle Bourienne. The idea that at the first moment
of receiving the news of his son’s intentions had occurred to him in
jest—that if Andrew got married he himself would marry Bourienne—had
evidently pleased him, and latterly he had persistently, and as it
seemed to Princess Mary merely to offend her, shown special endearments
to the companion and expressed his dissatisfaction with his daughter by
demonstrations of love of Bourienne.
One day in Moscow in Princess Mary’s presence (she thought her father
did it purposely when she was there) the old prince kissed Mademoiselle
Bourienne’s hand and, drawing her to him, embraced her affectionately.
Princess Mary flushed and ran out of the room. A few minutes later
Mademoiselle Bourienne came into Princess Mary’s room smiling and
making cheerful remarks in her agreeable voice. Princess Mary hastily
wiped away her tears, went resolutely up to Mademoiselle Bourienne,
and evidently unconscious of what she was doing began shouting in angry
haste at the Frenchwoman, her voice breaking: “It’s horrible, vile,
inhuman, to take advantage of the weakness...” She did not finish.
“Leave my room,” she exclaimed, and burst into sobs.
Next day the prince did not say a word to his daughter, but she noticed
that at dinner he gave orders that Mademoiselle Bourienne should be
served first. After dinner, when the footman handed coffee and from
habit began with the princess, the prince suddenly grew furious,
threw his stick at Philip, and instantly gave instructions to have him
conscripted for the army.
“He doesn’t obey... I said it twice... and he doesn’t obey! She
is the first person in this house; she’s my best friend,” cried
the prince. “And if you allow yourself,” he screamed in a fury,
addressing Princess Mary for the first time, “to forget yourself again
before her as you dared to do yesterday, I will show you who is master
in this house. Go! Don’t let me set eyes on you; beg her pardon!”
Princess Mary asked Mademoiselle Bourienne’s pardon, and also her
father’s pardon for herself and for Philip the footman, who had begged
for her intervention.
At such moments something like a pride of sacrifice gathered in her
soul. And suddenly that father whom she had judged would look for his
spectacles in her presence, fumbling near them and not seeing them, or
would forget something that had just occurred, or take a false step with
his failing legs and turn to see if anyone had noticed his feebleness,
or, worst of all, at dinner when there were no visitors to excite him
would suddenly fall asleep, letting his napkin drop and his shaking
head sink over his plate. “He is old and feeble, and I dare to condemn
him!” she thought at such moments, with a feeling of revulsion against
herself.
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Let's Analyse the Pattern
The process by which caregivers gradually adopt the negative behaviors of those they care for due to prolonged exposure and inadequate emotional boundaries.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how prolonged exposure to toxic behavior gradually changes our own patterns, even when we're trying to help.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you feel yourself adopting the harsh tone or impatience of someone you're dealing with regularly—pause and ask if this is really you speaking.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"The visitors did not reflect that besides the couple of hours during which they saw their host, there were also twenty-two hours in the day during which the private and intimate life of the house continued."
Context: Describing how outsiders only see the prince's public dignity, not his private cruelty
This reveals the gap between public reputation and private reality. People judge based on limited exposure, not understanding the full picture of what happens behind closed doors.
In Today's Words:
Everyone thought he was this dignified old gentleman, but they had no idea what his family dealt with the other 22 hours a day.
"Am I to blame that God has not given me a son? What's my fault?"
Context: Her internal anguish about her father's disappointment in having only a daughter
Shows how she's internalized blame for things beyond her control. This self-blame is common in toxic family dynamics where the victim assumes responsibility for the abuser's behavior.
In Today's Words:
Why do I keep feeling like everything wrong in this family is somehow my fault?
"She saw herself in Nicholas, and was horrified at the resemblance."
Context: When Princess Mary catches herself being harsh while teaching her nephew
The moment she realizes she's becoming like her father despite trying not to. This recognition of inherited patterns is both terrifying and potentially liberating if she can break the cycle.
In Today's Words:
Oh God, I'm turning into him - I sound exactly like the person I swore I'd never become.
Thematic Threads
Caregiving
In This Chapter
Princess Mary sacrifices her well-being to care for her deteriorating, cruel father, losing herself in the process
Development
Evolved from her earlier religious devotion to show how service without boundaries becomes self-destruction
In Your Life:
You might recognize this in caring for difficult family members while neglecting your own emotional needs
Isolation
In This Chapter
Cut off from her pilgrim friends and country solitude, Mary has no emotional support systems in Moscow
Development
Builds on earlier themes of social disconnection but shows how isolation amplifies family dysfunction
In Your Life:
You might see this when major life changes separate you from your usual support networks
Power
In This Chapter
The prince uses his authority to manipulate Mary through threats of marriage to Bourienne and punishment of servants
Development
Shows how aging and decline can make power more petty and cruel rather than wise
In Your Life:
You might encounter this with bosses or family members who use their position to control through emotional manipulation
Identity
In This Chapter
Mary recognizes she's becoming like her father—harsh and impatient—which horrifies her
Development
Deepens the theme of how we become what we're exposed to, regardless of our intentions
In Your Life:
You might notice yourself adopting negative traits from people you spend too much time around
Class
In This Chapter
The prince's political opposition role in Moscow society masks the private dysfunction within their family
Development
Continues showing how public respectability often hides private cruelty
In Your Life:
You might see this in families or organizations that maintain perfect public images while being toxic internally
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific behaviors show that Princess Mary is becoming like her father, and how does she react when she notices this?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does caring for a cruel person often make the caregiver cruel themselves, even when they hate that behavior?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see this 'absorbing toxic behavior' pattern in modern workplaces, families, or relationships?
application • medium - 4
What protective strategies could Princess Mary use to maintain her own character while still caring for her father?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about the hidden costs of self-sacrifice and how toxic patterns spread through families?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Emotional Contagion Risk
Think of someone in your life who consistently drains your energy or brings out your worst traits. Draw a simple map showing: their typical behavior toward you, how you usually respond, and what traits of theirs you've noticed appearing in your interactions with others. Then identify three specific moments when you could 'discharge' their negative energy before passing it on.
Consider:
- •Notice patterns without judging yourself - this happens to everyone
- •Look for early warning signs when you're absorbing someone else's energy
- •Identify safe people or activities that help you reset to your true nature
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you caught yourself treating someone the way a difficult person treats you. What was happening in your life that made you vulnerable to absorbing their behavior? How could you handle it differently now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 148: The French Doctor's Expulsion
As Princess Mary struggles with her impossible situation, Prince Andrew's marriage plans continue to create tension. The family dynamics are about to shift even further as new pressures mount.




