Summary
Smith reveals that all virtue stems from two fundamental human abilities: our capacity to feel what others feel, and our ability to control our own emotions so others can relate to us. From the first comes the 'amiable virtues' - compassion, kindness, and emotional generosity. These make us lovable because we mirror others' joys and sorrows, making them feel understood and supported. From the second comes the 'respectable virtues' - dignity, self-control, and emotional restraint. These earn admiration because they show mastery over our natural impulses. Smith illustrates this with powerful examples: we're moved by quiet, dignified grief more than loud wailing, and we respect controlled anger more than explosive rage. The key insight is that virtue isn't about being average - it's about being exceptional. True virtue requires either extraordinary sensitivity to others or remarkable self-discipline, going far beyond what most people manage in daily life. Smith also distinguishes between basic propriety (doing what's socially acceptable) and genuine virtue (doing something genuinely admirable). Eating when hungry is proper but not virtuous. However, even imperfect attempts at virtue deserve recognition when circumstances make perfection nearly impossible. This creates a practical framework for evaluating both our own behavior and others' - we can judge by absolute standards or by what's reasonably achievable given the situation.
Coming Up in Chapter 6
Smith will examine how our physical needs and bodily sensations create their own category of emotions, exploring why some feelings seem to arise purely from our animal nature rather than our social connections.
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Of the amiable and respectable virtues. Upon these two different efforts, upon that of the spectator to enter into the sentiments of the person principally concerned, and upon that of the person principally concerned, to bring down his emotions to what the spectator can go along with, are founded two different sets of virtues. The soft, the gentle, the amiable virtues, the virtues of candid condescension and indulgent humanity, are founded upon the one: the great, the awful and respectable, the virtues of self-denial, of self-government, of that command of the passions which subjects all the movements of our nature to what our own dignity and honour, and the propriety of our own conduct require, derive their origin from the other. How amiable does he appear to be, whose sympathetic heart seems to re-echo all the sentiments of those with whom he converses, who grieves for their calamities, who resents their injuries, and rejoices 28at their good fortune! When we bring home to ourselves the situation of his companions, we enter into their gratitude, and feel what consolation they must derive from the tender sympathy of so affectionate a friend. And for a contrary reason, how disagreeable does he appear to be, whose hard and obdurate heart feels for himself only, but is altogether insensible of the happiness or misery of others! We enter, in this case too, into the pain which his presence must give to every mortal with whom he converses, to those especially with whom we are most apt to sympathize, the unfortunate and the injured. On the other hand, what noble propriety and grace do we feel in the conduct of those who, in their own case, exert that recollection and self-command which constitute the dignity of every passion, and which bring it down to what others can enter into? We are disgusted with that clamorous grief, which, without any delicacy, calls upon our compassion with sighs and tears and importunate lamentations. But we reverence that reserved, that silent and majestic sorrow, which discovers itself only in the swelling of the eyes, in the quivering of the lips and cheeks, and in the distant, but affecting, coldness of the whole behaviour. It imposes the like silence upon us. We regard it with respectful attention, and watch with anxious concern over our whole behaviour, lest by any impropriety we should disturb that concerted tranquillity, which it requires so great an effort to support. The insolence and brutality of anger, in the same manner when we indulge its fury without check or 29restraint, is, of all subjects, the most detestable. But we admire that noble and generous resentment which governs its pursuit of the greatest injuries, not by the rage which they are apt to excite in the breast of the sufferer, but by the indignation which they naturally call forth in that of the impartial spectator; which allows no word, no gesture, to escape it beyond what this more equitable sentiment would dictate; which never, even in...
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Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Two Virtues - How Excellence Requires Either Deep Feeling or Strong Control
A recurring theme explored in this chapter.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches you to distinguish between genuine virtue and basic politeness by recognizing the two paths to moral excellence.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone goes beyond normal expectations - either through exceptional caring or remarkable self-control - and distinguish that from just following social rules.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Terms to Know
Spectator Theory
Smith's idea that we judge right and wrong by imagining how a neutral observer would react to our actions. We naturally want approval from others, so we try to act in ways that would earn respect from someone watching.
Modern Usage:
This is why we feel embarrassed when caught doing something questionable - we're seeing ourselves through someone else's eyes.
Sympathetic Heart
The ability to genuinely feel what others are feeling, not just understand it intellectually. Smith sees this as the foundation of kindness and compassion.
Modern Usage:
It's the difference between saying 'I'm sorry for your loss' and actually feeling a pang of sadness when someone tells you their dog died.
Amiable Virtues
The soft, gentle qualities that make people lovable - compassion, kindness, emotional warmth. These come from being able to feel what others feel.
Modern Usage:
These are the traits that make someone a good friend or the coworker everyone goes to for comfort.
Respectable Virtues
The strong, dignified qualities that earn admiration - self-control, courage, maintaining composure under pressure. These come from mastering your own emotions.
Modern Usage:
This is why we admire people who stay calm in a crisis or handle bad news with grace instead of falling apart.
Command of the Passions
The ability to control your emotions and reactions instead of being controlled by them. Smith sees this as essential for earning respect from others.
Modern Usage:
It's keeping your cool when your boss criticizes you unfairly, or not screaming at the customer service rep when they can't help you.
Propriety
Basic social appropriateness - acting in ways that fit the situation and don't make others uncomfortable. This is different from virtue, which goes above and beyond.
Modern Usage:
Propriety is wearing appropriate clothes to work; virtue is staying late to help a struggling coworker without being asked.
Moral Sentiment
The feelings we have about right and wrong - not just thoughts, but actual emotions that guide our judgment of ourselves and others.
Modern Usage:
It's that gut feeling of disgust when you see someone being cruel, or the warm feeling when you witness genuine kindness.
Characters in This Chapter
The Sympathetic Friend
ideal companion
Smith describes someone whose heart echoes all the feelings of those around them - grieving with the sad, celebrating with the happy. This person makes others feel understood and supported.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who actually listens when you vent and remembers to check on you later
The Hard-Hearted Person
negative example
Someone who feels only for themselves and remains unmoved by others' joy or pain. Smith uses this as a contrast to show how unpleasant selfishness appears to everyone around them.
Modern Equivalent:
The coworker who never asks how you're doing and only talks about their own problems
The Dignified Griever
model of restraint
Smith describes how we're more moved by someone who bears loss with quiet dignity than by loud, dramatic displays of emotion. This person earns our respect through self-control.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who handles a layoff or divorce with grace instead of creating drama
The Impartial Spectator
moral judge
An imaginary neutral observer that Smith says we all carry in our heads. This internal voice helps us judge whether our actions would seem reasonable to someone with no stake in the outcome.
Modern Equivalent:
The voice in your head asking 'What would people think if they saw me doing this?'
Key Quotes & Analysis
"How amiable does he appear to be, whose sympathetic heart seems to re-echo all the sentiments of those with whom he converses"
Context: Smith is explaining why we find certain people naturally attractive and lovable
This shows that being genuinely caring isn't just nice - it's magnetic. People are drawn to those who can truly feel what they're feeling because it makes them feel less alone.
In Today's Words:
Everyone loves the person who really gets how you're feeling and cares about what you're going through.
"The soft, the gentle, the amiable virtues, the virtues of candid condescension and indulgent humanity"
Context: Smith is categorizing the two main types of virtues people can possess
Smith is saying that kindness and emotional generosity are real virtues, not just personality traits. Being genuinely caring takes effort and deserves recognition.
In Today's Words:
Being truly kind and understanding isn't easy - it's actually a form of strength that deserves respect.
"How disagreeable does he appear to be, whose hard and obdurate heart feels for himself only"
Context: Smith is contrasting the sympathetic person with someone who is completely self-centered
This reveals that selfishness isn't just morally wrong - it's socially repulsive. People instinctively dislike those who show no concern for others' feelings.
In Today's Words:
Nobody wants to be around someone who only cares about themselves and never considers how others feel.
Thematic Threads
Class
In This Chapter
Different classes value different virtue tracks - working class often prizes empathy, upper class often rewards self-control
Development
Building on earlier discussions of social expectations and judgments
In Your Life:
You might feel judged for being 'too emotional' in professional settings that value restraint over connection
Identity
In This Chapter
Your virtue track becomes part of who you are - the caring person versus the steady person
Development
Extends earlier themes about how we see ourselves through others' eyes
In Your Life:
You might struggle with identity when your natural virtue track doesn't fit your role's expectations
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Society expects different virtues from different people based on their position and circumstances
Development
Deepens understanding of how social rules vary by context and person
In Your Life:
You might face different virtue expectations as a parent versus employee versus friend
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Growth means developing your natural virtue track rather than trying to master both
Development
Shifts from general improvement to strategic self-development
In Your Life:
You might waste energy trying to be both deeply empathetic and perfectly controlled instead of excelling at one
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Understanding others' virtue tracks helps you appreciate different types of people and their contributions
Development
Builds on earlier relationship dynamics with specific framework for evaluation
In Your Life:
You might misunderstand why some people seem cold when they're actually showing respectable virtue through self-control
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Smith says there are two types of virtue - being really good at feeling what others feel, or being really good at controlling your own emotions. Can you think of someone in your life who's great at one of these? What makes them stand out?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Smith think we respect quiet grief more than loud wailing, or controlled anger more than explosive rage? What does this tell us about what humans naturally admire?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about your workplace or family. Who gets respected for staying calm under pressure, and who gets loved for really caring about others' problems? Do you see Smith's two virtue tracks playing out?
application • medium - 4
Smith says we should judge people based on their circumstances - the exhausted single parent who snaps isn't the same as someone well-rested who explodes over nothing. How would you apply this 'context matters' principle when someone disappoints you?
application • deep - 5
If virtue requires going beyond normal human responses - either through extraordinary empathy or exceptional self-control - what does this suggest about why genuine virtue is rare and valuable?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Virtue Track
Think of three people you genuinely respect or admire. For each person, identify whether you respect them more for their ability to connect emotionally with others (amiable virtues) or for their self-control and steady leadership (respectable virtues). Then reflect on yourself - which track comes more naturally to you, and how could you develop it further?
Consider:
- •Most people excel more in one track than the other - this isn't a failure, it's specialization
- •The same person might show different virtues in different situations
- •Consider whether you're judging people fairly based on their circumstances and natural strengths
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you had to choose between being emotionally supportive and staying professionally composed. Which felt more natural to you, and what did you learn about your own virtue track from that experience?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 6: When Your Body Betrays Your Image
As the story unfolds, you'll explore we judge people for displaying basic human needs, while uncovering physical pain gets less sympathy than emotional drama. These lessons connect the classic to contemporary challenges we all face.