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We may judge of the propriety or impropriety
of the sentiments of another person by their correspondence
or disagreement with our own, upon two
different occasions; either, first, when the objects
which excite them are considered without any peculiar
relation, either to themselves or to the person
whose sentiments we judge of; or, secondly, when
they are considered as peculiarly affecting one or
other of us.
201. With regard to those objects which are considered
without any peculiar relation either to ourselves
or to the person whose sentiments we judge
of; wherever his sentiments intirely correspond
with our own, we ascribe to him the qualities of taste
and good judgment. The beauty of a plain, the
greatness of a mountain, the ornaments of a building,
the expression of a picture, the composition of
a discourse, the conduct of a third person, the proportions
of different quantities and numbers, the
various appearances which the great machine of the
universe is perpetually exhibiting, with the secret
wheels and springs which produce them; all the
general subjects of science and taste, are what we
and our companions regard, as having no peculiar
relation to either of us. We both look at them
from the same point of view, and we have no occasion
for sympathy, or for that imaginary change
of situations from which it arises, in order to produce,
with regard to these, the most perfect harmony
of sentiments and affections. If, notwithstanding,
we are often differently affected, it arises either from
the different degrees of attention, which our different
habits of life allow us to give easily to the several
parts of those complex objects, or from the different
degrees of natural acuteness in the faculty of the
mind to which they are addressed.
When the sentiments of our companion coincide
with our own in things of this kind, which are obvious
and easy, and in which, perhaps, we never
found a single person who differed from us, though
we, no doubt, must approve of them, yet he seems
to deserve no praise or admiration on account of
them. But when they not only coincide with our
21own, but lead and direct our own; when in forming
them he appears to have attended to many things
which we had overlooked, and to have adjusted
them to all the various circumstances of their objects;
we not only approve of them, but wonder and are
surprised at their uncommon and unexpected acuteness
and comprehensiveness, and he appears to
deserve a very high degree of admiration and applause.
For approbation heightened by wonder and
surprise, constitutes the sentiment which is properly
palled admiration, and of which applause is the natural
expression. The decision of the man who
judges that exquisite beauty is preferable to the
grossest deformity, or that twice two are equal to
four, must certainly be approved of by all the world,
but will not, surely, be much admired. It is the
acute and delicate discernment of the man of taste,
who distinguishes the minute, and scarce perceptible,
differences of beauty and deformity; it is the comprehensive
accuracy of the experienced mathematician,
who unravels, with ease, the most intricate
and perplexed proportions; it is the great leader in
science and taste, the man who directs and conducts
our own sentiments, the extent and superior justness
of whole talents astonish us with wonder and surprise,
who excites our admiration and seems to deserve
our applause: and upon this foundation is
grounded the greater part of the praise which is
bestowed upon what are called the intellectual
virtues.
The utility of those qualities, it may be thought,
is what first recommends them to us; and, no doubt,
the consideration of this, when we come to attend
to it, gives them a new value. Originally, however,
22we approve of another man’s judgment, not as something
useful, but as right, as accurate, as agreeable
to truth and reality: and it is evident we attribute
those qualities to it for no other reason but because
we find that it agrees with our own. Taste, in the
same manner, is originally approved of, not as useful,
but as just, as delicate, and as precisely suited to
its object. The idea of the utility of all qualities of
this kind, is plainly an after-thought, and not what
first recommended them to our approbation.
2. With regard to those objects, which affect in
a particular manner either ourselves or the person
whose sentiments we judge of, it is at once more
difficult to preserve this harmony and correspondence,
and at the same time, vastly more important.
My companion does not naturally look upon the
misfortune that has befallen me, or the injury that
has been done me, from the same point of view in
which I consider them. They affect me much
more nearly. We do not view them from the same
station, as we do a picture, or a poem, or a system
of philosophy, and are, therefore, apt to be very
differently affected by them. But I can much more
easily overlook the want of this correspondence of
sentiments with regard to such indifferent objects
as concern neither me nor my companion, than with
regard to what interests me so much as the misfortune
that has befallen me, or the injury that has been
done me. Though you despise that picture, or
that poem, or even that system of philosophy, which
I admire, there is little danger of our quarrelling
upon that account. Neither of us can reasonably
be much interested about them. They ought all
of them to be matters of great indifference to us
23both; so that, though our opinions may be opposite,
our affections may still be very nearly the same.
But it is quite otherwise with regard to those objects
by which either you or I are particularly affected.
Though your judgment in matters of speculation,
though your sentiments in matters of taste, are
quite opposite to mine, I can easily overlook this
opposition; and if I have any degree of temper, I
may still find some entertainment in your conversation,
even upon those very subjects. But if you
have either no fellow-feeling for the misfortunes I
have met with, or none that bears any proportion
to the grief which distracts me, or if you have either
no indignation at the injuries I have suffered, or
none that bears any proportion to the resentment
which transports me, we can no longer converse
upon these subjects. We become intolerable to one
another. I can neither support your company, nor
you mine. You are confounded at my violence
and passion, and I am enraged at your cold insensibility
and want of feeling.
In all such cases, that there may be some correspondence
of sentiments between the spectator and
the person principally concerned, the spectator
must, first of all, endeavour, as much as he can, to
put himself in the situation of the other, and to bring
home to himself every little circumstance of distress
which can possibly occur to the sufferer. He must
adopt the whole case of his companion with all its
minutest incidents; and strive to render as perfect
as possible, that imaginary change of situation upon
which his sympathy is founded.
After all this, however, the emotions of the spectator
will still be very apt to fall short of the violence
24of what is felt by the sufferer. Mankind, though
naturally sympathetic, never conceive, for what has
befallen another, that degree of passion which naturally
animates the person principally concerned.
That imaginary change of situation, upon which
their sympathy is founded, is but momentary.
The thought of their own safety, the thought that
they themselves are not really the sufferers, continually
intrudes itself upon them; and though it does
not hinder them from conceiving a passion somewhat
analogous to what is felt by the sufferer, hinders
them from conceiving any thing that approaches
to the same degree of violence. The person principally
concerned is sensible of this, and, at the same
time passionately desires a more complete sympathy.
He longs for that relief which nothing can afford
him but the entire concord of the affections of the
spectators with his own. To see the emotions of
their hearts, in every respect, beat time to his own,
in the violent and disagreeable passions, constitutes
his sole consolation. But he can only hope to obtain
this by lowering his passion to that pitch, in
which the spectators are capable of going along
with him. He must flatten, if I may be allowed
to say so, the sharpness of its natural tone, in order
to reduce it to harmony and concord with the emotions
of those who are about him. What they
feel, will, indeed, always be, in some respects, different
from what he feels, and compassion can never
be exactly the same with original sorrow; because
the secret consciousness that the change of situations,
from which the sympathetic sentiment arises, is but
imaginary, not only lowers it in degree, but in some
measure, varies it in kind, and gives it a quite different
25modification. These two sentiments, however,
may, it is evident, have such a correspondence
with one another, as is sufficient for the harmony of
society. Though they will never be unisons, they
may be concords, and this is all that is wanted or
required.
In order to produce this concord, as nature teaches
the spectators to assume the circumstances of the
person principally concerned, so she teaches this last
in some measure to assume those of the spectators.
As they are continually placing themselves in this
situation, and thence conceiving emotions similar to
what he feels; so he is as constantly placing himself
in theirs, and thence conceiving some degree of that
coolness about his own fortune, with which he is sensible
that they will view it. As they are constantly
considering what they themselves would feel, if they
actually were the sufferers, so he is as constantly led
to imagine in what manner he would be affected if
he was only one of the spectators of his own situation.
As their sympathy makes them look at it,
in some measure, with his eyes, so his sympathy
makes him look at it, in some measure, with theirs,
especially when in their presence and acting under
their observation: and as the reflected passion, which
he thus conceives, is much weaker than the original
one, it necessarily abates the violence of what he felt
before he came into their presence, before he began
to recollect in what manner they would be affected
by it, and to view his situation in this candid and
impartial light.
26The mind, therefore, is rarely so disturbed, but
that the company of a friend will restore it to some
degree of tranquillity and sedateness. The breast
is, in some measure, calmed and composed the moment
we come into his presence. We are immediately
put in mind of the light in which he will
view our situation, and we begin to view it ourselves
in the same light; for the effect of sympathy is instantaneous.
We expect less sympathy from a common
acquaintance than from a friend: we cannot
open to the former all those little circumstances
which we can unfold to the latter: we assume,
therefore, more tranquillity before him, and endeavour
to fix our thoughts upon those general outlines
of our situation which he is willing to consider.
We expect still less sympathy from an assembly of
strangers, and we assume, therefore, still more tranquillity
before them, and always endeavour to bring
down our passion to that pitch, which the particular
company we are in may be expected to go along
with. Nor is this only an assumed appearance:
for if we are at all masters of ourselves, the presence
of a mere acquaintance will really compose us, still
more than that of a friend; and that of an assembly
of strangers still more than that of an acquaintance.
Society and conversation, therefore, are the most
powerful remedies for restoring the mind to its
tranquillity, if, at any time, it has unfortunately lost
it; as well as the best preservatives of that equal
and happy temper, which is so necessary to self-satisfaction
and enjoyment. Men of retirement and
speculation, who are apt to sit brooding at home
27over either grief or resentment, though they may
often have more humanity, more generosity, and a
nicer sense of honour, yet seldom possess that equality
of temper which is so common among men of the
world.
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Let's Analyse the Pattern
The natural disconnect between how intensely we feel our own experiences versus how others can relate to them, requiring conscious adjustment from both sides to maintain relationships.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches you to recognize when relationship conflicts stem from different emotional intensities rather than lack of caring.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone's pain feels too intense for you or when your own pain isn't being matched by others—name it as emotional physics, not personal rejection.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"We both look at them from the same point of view, and we have no occasion for sympathy, or for that imaginary change of situations from which it arises, in order to produce, with regard to these, the most perfect harmony of sentiments and affections."
Context: Smith explains why it's easier to agree about neutral topics like art or math
This shows why some conversations flow easily while others create conflict. When nobody's personal interests are threatened, we can focus on the topic itself rather than protecting our egos or validating our experiences.
In Today's Words:
It's easy to agree about stuff that doesn't affect either of us personally.
"If, notwithstanding, we are often differently affected, it is not always from any difference of constitution, but from the different degrees of attention, which our different habits of life allow us to give easily to the several parts of those complex objects."
Context: Explaining why people have different opinions even about neutral topics
Smith recognizes that our backgrounds shape what we notice and value. This isn't about being right or wrong, but about having different life experiences that highlight different aspects of the same situation.
In Today's Words:
We see different things because we've lived different lives and learned to pay attention to different details.
"We ascribe to him the qualities of taste and good judgment."
Context: When someone's opinions about neutral topics match our own
This reveals how we use agreement as a shortcut to judge someone's intelligence and character. When people share our aesthetic or intellectual preferences, we assume they're smart and sophisticated.
In Today's Words:
When someone likes what we like, we think they have good taste.
Thematic Threads
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Smith shows how emotional mismatches create relationship fractures and how successful connections require mutual emotional adjustment
Development
Building on earlier chapters about sympathy, now focusing on the practical mechanics of maintaining relationships
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when friends seem less concerned about your problems than you think they should be
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Society expects us to moderate our emotional displays based on our audience, and this expectation actually shapes how we feel
Development
Expanding the concept of social pressure to include emotional regulation as a social skill
In Your Life:
You probably already adjust how much emotion you show at work versus with family without realizing it
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Learning to calibrate emotional expression and reception becomes a crucial life skill for maintaining relationships
Development
Moving from understanding emotions to actively managing them for better outcomes
In Your Life:
You might need to develop better skills at either expressing your needs or responding to others' emotional needs
Class
In This Chapter
Different social circles have different tolerance levels for emotional expression, requiring code-switching
Development
Introduced here as emotional class differences rather than economic ones
In Your Life:
You might express frustration differently with work colleagues than with family members from your background
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
According to Smith, why is it easier to disagree about neutral topics like art or math than about personal matters that affect us directly?
analysis • surface - 2
What creates the emotional gap between someone experiencing pain and those observing it, and why does this gap naturally occur?
analysis • medium - 3
Think of a time when you felt hurt or wronged but others didn't match your emotional intensity. Where do you see this pattern playing out in workplaces, families, or friendships today?
application • medium - 4
When someone close to you is suffering, how could you deliberately close the emotional gap without taking on their full intensity? What specific actions would help?
application • deep - 5
Smith suggests that being around others naturally moderates our extreme emotions. What does this reveal about why isolation can be dangerous and social connection can be healing?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Emotional Translation Practice
Think of a current frustration or disappointment in your life that feels intense to you. Write two versions of explaining this situation: first, expressing your full emotional intensity as you actually feel it, then translating it into terms that others could absorb and respond to helpfully. Notice what changes between the two versions.
Consider:
- •What details do you emphasize differently in each version?
- •How does the emotional temperature change between versions?
- •Which version would be more likely to get you the support you actually need?
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when someone's emotional intensity overwhelmed you, or when your own intensity pushed others away. How might understanding Smith's emotional gap concept change how you handle similar situations in the future?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 5: Two Types of Virtue
Smith will examine what makes certain virtues lovable versus respectable, exploring why we're drawn to some good qualities while merely admiring others from a distance.




