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f the manner in which we judge of the propriety or impropriety of the affections of other men, by their concord or dissonance with our own.
When the original passions of the person
principally concerned are in perfect concord
with the sympathetic emotions of the spectator,
they necessarily appear to this last just and
proper, and suitable to their objects; and, on the
contrary, when, upon bringing the case home to
himself, he finds that they do not coincide with
what he feels, they necessarily appear to him unjust
and improper, and unsuitable to the causes which
excite them. To approve of the passions of another,
therefore, as suitable to their objects, is the
same thing as to observe that we entirely sympathize
with them; and not to approve of them as such,
is the same thing as to observe that we do not entirely
sympathize with them. The man who resents
the injuries that have been done to me, and
15observes that I resent them precisely as he does, necessarily
approves of my resentment. The man
whose sympathy keeps time to my grief, cannot
but admit the reasonableness of my sorrow. He
who admires the same poem, or the same picture,
and admires them exactly as I do, must surely allow
the justness of my admiration. He who laughs at
the same joke, and laughs along with me, cannot
well deny the propriety of my laughter. On the
contrary, the person who, upon these different occasions,
either feels no such emotion as that which
I feel, or feels none that bears any proportion to
mine, cannot avoid disapproving my sentiments on
account of their dissonance with his own. If my
animosity goes beyond what the indignation of my
friend can correspond to; if my grief exceeds what
his most tender compassion can go along with; if
my admiration is either too high or too low to tally
with his own; if I laugh loud and heartily when he
only smiles, or, on the contrary, only smile when he
laughs loud and heartily; in all these cases, as soon
as he comes from considering the object, to observe
how I am affected by it, according as there is more
or less disproportion between his sentiments and
mine, I must incur a greater or less degree of his
disapprobation: and upon all occasions his own
sentiments are the standards and measures by which
he judges of mine.
To approve of another man’s opinions is to adopt
those opinions, and to adopt them is to approve of
them. If the same arguments which convince you
convince me likewise, I necessarily approve of your
conviction; and if they do not, I necessarily disapprove
of it: neither can I possibly conceive that I
16should do the one without the other. To approve
or disapprove, therefore, of the opinions of others
is acknowledged, by every body, to mean no more
than to observe their agreement or disagreement
with our own. But this is equally the case with
regard to our approbation or disapprobation of the
sentiments or passions of others.
There are, indeed, some cases in which we seem
to approve without any sympathy or correspondence
of sentiments, and in which, consequently, the sentiment
of approbation would seem to be different
from the perception of this coincidence. A little
attention, however, will convince us that even in
these cases our approbation is ultimately founded
upon a sympathy or correspondence of this kind.
I shall give an instance in things of a very frivolous
nature, because in them the judgments of mankind
are less apt to be perverted by wrong systems. We
may often approve of a jest, and think the laughter
of the company quite just and proper, though we
ourselves do not laugh, because, perhaps, we are in
a grave humour, or happen to have our attention
engaged with other objects. We have learned,
however, from experience, what sort of pleasantry
as upon most occasions capable of making us laugh,
and we observe that this is one of that kind. We
approve, therefore, of the laughter of the company,
and feel that it is natural and suitable to its object;
because, though in our present mood we cannot easily
enter into it, we are sensible that upon most occasions
we should very heartily join in it.
The same thing often happens with regard to all
the other passions. A stranger passes by us in the
17street with all the marks of the deepest affliction;
and we are immediately told that he has just received
the news of the death of his father. It is impossible
that, in this case, we should not approve of
his grief. Yet it may often happen, without any
defect of humanity on our part, that, so far from
entering into the violence of his sorrow, we should
scarce conceive the first movements of concern upon
his account. Both he and his father, perhaps, are
intirely unknown to us, or we happen to be employed
about other things, and do not take time to picture
out in our imagination the different circumstances of
distress which must occur to him. We have learned,
however, from experience, that such a misfortune
naturally excites such a degree of sorrow, and
we know that if we took time to consider his situation,
fully and in all its parts, we should, without
doubt, most sincerely sympathize with him. It is
upon the consciousness of this conditional sympathy,
that our approbation of his sorrow is founded, even
in those cases in which that sympathy does not actually
take place; and the general rules derived
from our preceding experience of what our sentiments
would commonly correspond with, correct
upon this, as upon many other occasions, the impropriety
of our present emotions.
The sentiment or affection of the heart from
which any action proceeds, and upon which its whole
virtue or vice must ultimately depend, may be considered
under two different aspects, or in two different
relations; first, in relation to the cause which
excites it, or the motive which gives occasion to it;
and secondly, in relation to the end which it proposes,
or the effect which it tends to produce.
18In the suitableness or unsuitableness, in the proportion
or disproportion which the affection seems
to bear to the cause or object which excites it, consists
the propriety or impropriety, the decency or
ungracefulness of the consequent action.
In the beneficial or hurtful nature of the effects
which the affection aims at, or tends to produce,
consists the merit or demerit of the action, the qualities
by which it is entitled to reward, or is deserving
of punishment.
Philosophers have, of late years, considered chiefly
the tendency of affections, and have given little
attention to the relation which they stand in to the
cause which excites them. In common life, however,
when we judge of any person’s conduct, and of the
sentiments which directed it, we constantly consider
them under both these aspects. When we blame in
another man the excesses of love, of grief, of resentment,
we not only consider the ruinous effects
which they tend to produce, but the little occasion
which was given for them. The merit of his favourite,
we say, is not so great, his misfortune is not so
dreadful, his provocation is not so extraordinary, as
to justify so violent a passion. We should have indulged,
we say; perhaps, have approved of the violence
of his emotion, had the cause been in any respect
proportioned to it.
When we judge in this manner of any affection,
as proportioned or disproportioned to the cause which
excites it, it is scarce possible that we should make
use of any other rule or canon but the correspondent
affection in ourselves. If, upon bringing the case
19home to our own breast, we find that the sentiments
which it gives occasion to, coincide and tally with
our own, we necessarily approve of them as proportioned
and suitable to their objects; if otherwise,
we necessarily disapprove of them, as extravagant
and out of proportion.
Every faculty in one man is the measure by which
he judges of the like faculty in another. I judge of
your sight by my sight, of your ear by my ear, of
your reason by my reason, of your resentment by
my resentment, of your love by my love. I neither
have nor can have any other way of judging about
them.
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Let's Analyse the Pattern
We automatically judge others' emotional responses by measuring them against our own internal scale, assuming our reactions are the universal standard.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches you to recognize when you're using your own emotional scale to judge others inappropriately.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone's reaction seems 'wrong' to you—pause and ask what experiences might make it feel different to them than it would to you.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"To approve of the passions of another, therefore, as suitable to their objects, is the same thing as to observe that we entirely sympathize with them"
Context: Smith is explaining his core theory about how moral judgment works
This reveals that moral approval isn't based on abstract rules but on emotional resonance. We think someone's feelings are 'right' when they match what we'd feel. This makes morality deeply personal and experiential rather than purely rational.
In Today's Words:
When someone's reaction feels exactly like what yours would be, you automatically think they're justified.
"The man whose sympathy keeps time to my grief, cannot but admit the reasonableness of my sorrow"
Context: Smith is using musical metaphor to show how emotional matching creates moral approval
The musical metaphor reveals how natural and automatic this process is. Just as we can hear when music is in rhythm, we can feel when emotions are 'in time' with situations. This suggests moral judgment is more intuitive than we often think.
In Today's Words:
When someone grieves at the same pace and intensity you would, they can't help but think your sadness makes perfect sense.
"He who laughs at the same joke, and laughs along with me, cannot well deny the propriety of my laughter"
Context: Smith is showing how this principle works even with positive emotions
This everyday example makes the abstract theory concrete. It shows that shared emotional responses create instant validation, even for something as simple as humor. It also reveals how isolated we feel when others don't share our emotional reactions.
In Today's Words:
If you think something is funny too, you can't really say I'm wrong for laughing at it.
Thematic Threads
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Smith shows how we use our own emotional responses as the standard for judging others, creating the foundation for all social approval and disapproval
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might catch yourself thinking a friend is 'overreacting' to workplace drama because you handle stress differently.
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Our approval of others' emotions creates unspoken rules about what feelings are 'appropriate' in different situations
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might feel pressure to hide your excitement about small victories because others seem less enthusiastic.
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Understanding how we judge emotions reveals our biases and opens the door to more thoughtful responses to others
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might start questioning why certain emotional reactions bother you and what that reveals about your own experiences.
Identity
In This Chapter
Our emotional responses become part of how we define ourselves and measure our place in social hierarchies
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might realize you pride yourself on being 'low-maintenance' and judge others who express needs more directly.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
According to Smith, how do we decide if someone else's emotional reaction is appropriate or justified?
analysis • surface - 2
Why do we automatically use our own emotional experiences as the measuring stick for judging others' feelings, even when we're not currently experiencing those emotions ourselves?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about a recent disagreement with a family member, coworker, or friend. How might your different emotional 'thermostats' have contributed to the conflict?
application • medium - 4
When you catch yourself thinking someone is 'overreacting' or 'not caring enough,' what questions could you ask to understand their perspective instead of dismissing their feelings?
application • deep - 5
If everyone judges emotions through the lens of their own experiences, what does this reveal about the challenge of truly understanding another person?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Recalibrate Your Emotional Thermometer
Think of someone whose emotional reactions often seem 'wrong' to you - maybe they get too upset about small things, or don't seem bothered by things that would anger you. Write a brief story explaining their reaction from their perspective, considering what experiences might have shaped their emotional scale differently than yours.
Consider:
- •What past experiences might make this situation feel bigger or smaller to them than to you?
- •How might their current circumstances (stress, health, responsibilities) affect their emotional capacity?
- •What cultural, family, or personal values might make them prioritize different aspects of the situation?
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when someone dismissed your emotional reaction as inappropriate. How did that feel? What did they miss about your experience that made the situation feel different to you than it would to them?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 4: The Art of Emotional Harmony
Smith continues exploring this theme of emotional judgment, diving deeper into how we measure the appropriateness of feelings and the complex ways sympathy shapes our moral decisions.




