Summary
This chapter cuts through the noise to reveal what really matters in making life decisions. Buddha opens with a deceptively simple principle: sometimes you have to give up something good to get something great. It's the choice between sleeping in versus getting up early to exercise, or spending money on instant gratification versus saving for something meaningful. The wisdom lies in training yourself to see the bigger picture. The chapter then tackles a harsh truth about human nature - when we try to get happiness by making others miserable, we trap ourselves in cycles of anger and resentment. That coworker you throw under the bus, that relationship you manipulate - the negativity you create comes back to poison your own peace of mind. Buddha emphasizes the difference between people who drift through life versus those who stay awake to their choices. The drifters do what feels easy in the moment, letting their desires multiply like weeds. The aware ones pay attention to their habits, their bodies, their impact on others. They practice what Buddha calls 'watchfulness' - a constant gentle awareness of whether their actions align with their deeper values. The chapter includes some puzzling verses about killing parents and kings that scholars interpret as metaphors for destroying ego and false authority. More practically, Buddha describes his followers as people who stay 'well awake' - not just physically, but mentally and spiritually alert. They focus on compassion, meditation, and understanding rather than getting lost in drama. The chapter ends with a reality check: every path has its difficulties. Leaving the world behind is hard, but so is staying engaged with it. The key isn't finding an easy path, but choosing your hard wisely and staying committed to growth.
Coming Up in Chapter 22
The next chapter explores 'The Downward Course' - examining how small compromises and ignored warning signs can lead to major life derailments, and the specific patterns that signal when someone is headed for trouble.
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Miscellaneous 290. If by leaving a small pleasure one sees a great pleasure, let a wise man leave the small pleasure, and look to the great. 291. He who, by causing pain to others, wishes to obtain pleasure for himself, he, entangled in the bonds of hatred, will never be free from hatred. 292. What ought to be done is neglected, what ought not to be done is done; the desires of unruly, thoughtless people are always increasing. 293. But they whose whole watchfulness is always directed to their body, who do not follow what ought not to be done, and who steadfastly do what ought to be done, the desires of such watchful and wise people will come to an end. 294. A true Brahmana goes scatheless, though he have killed father and mother, and two valiant kings, though he has destroyed a kingdom with all its subjects. 295. A true Brahmana goes scatheless, though he have killed father and mother, and two holy kings, and an eminent man besides. 296. The disciples of Gotama (Buddha) are always well awake, and their thoughts day and night are always set on Buddha. 297. The disciples of Gotama are always well awake, and their thoughts day and night are always set on the law. 298. The disciples of Gotama are always well awake, and their thoughts day and night are always set on the church. 299. The disciples of Gotama are always well awake, and their thoughts day and night are always set on their body. 300. The disciples of Gotama are always well awake, and their mind day and night always delights in compassion. 301. The disciples of Gotama are always well awake, and their mind day and night always delights in meditation. 302. It is hard to leave the world (to become a friar), it is hard to enjoy the world; hard is the monastery, painful are the houses; painful it is to dwell with equals (to share everything in common) and the itinerant mendicant is beset with pain. Therefore let no man be an itinerant mendicant and he will not be beset with pain. 303. Whatever place a faithful, virtuous, celebrated, and wealthy man chooses, there he is respected. 304. Good people shine from afar, like the snowy mountains; bad people are not seen, like arrows shot by night. 305. He alone who, without ceasing, practises the duty of sitting alone and sleeping alone, he, subduing himself, will rejoice in the destruction of all desires alone, as if living in a forest.
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Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Strategic Sacrifice
Successful people consistently choose temporary discomfort for long-term gain while avoiding the trap of seeking happiness through others' misery.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to identify when you're about to choose temporary satisfaction over long-term peace.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you feel the urge to make someone else look bad to make yourself feel better - pause and ask if this serves your deeper values.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Terms to Know
Brahmana
In Buddha's time, the highest caste in Indian society, traditionally priests and spiritual teachers. Buddha uses this term to describe anyone who has achieved true spiritual wisdom, regardless of birth or social status.
Modern Usage:
Like calling someone a 'true professional' - it's about character and competence, not just the title on their business card.
Gotama
Buddha's family name before he became enlightened. His followers are called 'disciples of Gotama' to emphasize they're following a real person who found wisdom, not just abstract ideas.
Modern Usage:
Similar to how people say 'I follow Tony Robbins' methods' - connecting with a specific teacher's approach rather than generic advice.
Watchfulness
Buddha's term for staying consciously aware of your thoughts, actions, and their consequences. It's not paranoia or overthinking, but gentle, consistent attention to whether you're living according to your values.
Modern Usage:
Like being mindful about your spending habits or checking in with yourself before reacting to a stressful text message.
The Law (Dharma)
The natural principles that govern how life works - cause and effect, the reality that actions have consequences, the patterns that lead to suffering or peace. Not man-made rules, but universal truths.
Modern Usage:
Like understanding that treating people badly usually comes back to hurt you, or that consistent small efforts create big results over time.
Bonds of hatred
The way anger and resentment trap us in cycles of negative thinking and behavior. When we hurt others to feel better, we actually tie ourselves to the very emotions we're trying to escape.
Modern Usage:
Like staying stuck in drama with an ex or holding grudges at work - the anger hurts you more than the person you're mad at.
Small pleasure vs great pleasure
Buddha's framework for making decisions by comparing immediate gratification with longer-term satisfaction. The wisdom is learning to see which choice serves your bigger goals.
Modern Usage:
Choosing to save money instead of impulse buying, or getting up early to exercise instead of hitting snooze - trading instant comfort for lasting benefits.
Characters in This Chapter
The wise man
Ideal decision-maker
Represents someone who can see beyond immediate temptation to make choices that serve their larger goals. Shows the difference between reactive and thoughtful living.
Modern Equivalent:
The coworker who always seems to make smart long-term decisions
Unruly, thoughtless people
Cautionary example
Represents those who drift through life following impulses without considering consequences. Their desires keep multiplying because they never address the root patterns.
Modern Equivalent:
People always complaining about the same problems but never changing their habits
The watchful and wise
Aspirational model
Shows what's possible when someone stays consistently aware of their choices and aligns actions with values. Their desires decrease because they're not chasing empty things.
Modern Equivalent:
That friend who seems genuinely content and doesn't get caught up in drama
Disciples of Gotama
Committed followers
Demonstrates what focused spiritual practice looks like in daily life. They stay 'well awake' by consistently returning their attention to wisdom, compassion, and community.
Modern Equivalent:
People serious about personal growth who actually do the work consistently
Key Quotes & Analysis
"If by leaving a small pleasure one sees a great pleasure, let a wise man leave the small pleasure, and look to the great."
Context: Opening the chapter with a practical decision-making framework
This quote cuts through the complexity of choice by offering a simple test: what serves your bigger picture? It acknowledges that wisdom often requires short-term sacrifice for long-term gain.
In Today's Words:
Sometimes you have to give up something good to get something better - choose wisely.
"He who, by causing pain to others, wishes to obtain pleasure for himself, he, entangled in the bonds of hatred, will never be free from hatred."
Context: Warning about the consequences of trying to build happiness on others' suffering
This reveals how attempting to feel better by making others feel worse creates a psychological trap. The negativity we put out becomes the environment we live in.
In Today's Words:
If you try to feel good by making others feel bad, you'll stay stuck in toxic patterns.
"What ought to be done is neglected, what ought not to be done is done; the desires of unruly, thoughtless people are always increasing."
Context: Describing the pattern of people who live without conscious intention
This captures the frustrating cycle of knowing what's good for us but doing the opposite. Without awareness, our wants multiply because we're not addressing what actually satisfies us.
In Today's Words:
When you avoid what you know you should do and keep doing what you shouldn't, you just end up wanting more and more.
"The disciples of Gotama are always well awake, and their thoughts day and night are always set on Buddha."
Context: Describing what dedicated spiritual practice looks like
This shows how transformation happens through consistent focus rather than occasional effort. Being 'well awake' means staying conscious of your values and commitments throughout daily life.
In Today's Words:
People serious about growth keep their attention on what matters, not just when it's convenient.
Thematic Threads
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Buddha contrasts people who drift through life versus those who stay 'awake' to their choices and practice watchfulness
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might recognize this in how you handle difficult conversations - avoiding them or facing them head-on.
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
The warning that trying to gain happiness by making others miserable creates cycles of anger and resentment
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might see this in workplace dynamics where putting others down temporarily feels good but creates lasting conflict.
Class
In This Chapter
The distinction between those who can delay gratification and think strategically versus those who react to immediate impulses
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might notice this in financial decisions - choosing between immediate purchases and long-term savings goals.
Identity
In This Chapter
Buddha describes his followers as people who stay 'well awake' and focus on compassion rather than getting lost in drama
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might recognize this in how you define yourself - by your reactions to problems or by your commitment to growth.
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
The metaphorical references to destroying false authority and ego rather than conforming to external pressures
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might see this in moments when you choose your own values over what others expect you to do.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Buddha says sometimes you have to give up something good to get something great. What's an example from your own life where this choice paid off?
application • surface - 2
Why does Buddha warn that trying to feel better by making others feel worse ultimately backfires? What's the mechanism behind this?
analysis • medium - 3
Buddha describes two types of people - those who 'drift' and those who stay 'awake' to their choices. Where do you see this pattern in your workplace or community?
application • medium - 4
If you practiced Buddha's 'watchfulness' - pausing to ask 'Does this serve my deeper values?' before reacting - how might your typical day change?
application • deep - 5
Buddha ends by saying every path has difficulties, but we should 'choose our hard wisely.' What does this reveal about how successful people think differently about challenges?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Ripple Effects
Think of a recent conflict or frustration in your life. Draw or write out the ripple effects - how did your response create consequences that came back to affect you? Then redesign your response using Buddha's principle of 'watchfulness' and map out how different ripples might have formed.
Consider:
- •Notice whether you tried to feel better by making someone else feel worse
- •Identify the moment you could have paused and chosen differently
- •Consider how your redesigned response serves your deeper values
Journaling Prompt
Write about a pattern you've noticed in your life where short-term choices create long-term problems. How could you apply Buddha's concept of staying 'awake' to break this cycle?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 22: When Good Intentions Go Wrong
The coming pages reveal to recognize when you're fooling yourself about your own behavior, and teach us half-hearted efforts often backfire worse than not trying at all. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.