Summary
Anna and Vronsky's relationship reaches a breaking point as they struggle with the reality of their situation. Anna feels trapped between her love for Vronsky and the social consequences of their affair, while Vronsky begins to chafe against the limitations their relationship has placed on his life. The passion that once consumed them both now feels suffocating, and they find themselves caught in cycles of jealousy, resentment, and desperate attempts to recapture what they've lost. Anna's increasing isolation from society weighs heavily on her mental state, and she begins to see how her choices have cut her off from the world she once knew. Meanwhile, Vronsky feels the burden of responsibility for Anna's situation while simultaneously longing for the freedom he's given up. Their conversations become strained, filled with unspoken accusations and the growing awareness that love alone might not be enough to sustain them. This chapter reveals how relationships that begin in passion can become prisons when the outside world refuses to accept them. Anna's internal struggle reflects the impossible position of women in her society - damned if they follow their hearts, empty if they don't. The chapter shows us that sometimes the very intensity that draws two people together can become the force that tears them apart. Tolstoy masterfully illustrates how external pressure can poison even the deepest love, and how isolation can make people turn against each other instead of facing their problems together.
Coming Up in Chapter 33
As tensions between Anna and Vronsky continue to escalate, Anna makes a decision that will change everything. The weight of her choices finally pushes her toward a moment of reckoning that neither of them saw coming.
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The first person to meet Anna at home was her son. He dashed down the stairs to her, in spite of the governess’s call, and with desperate joy shrieked: “Mother! mother!” Running up to her, he hung on her neck. “I told you it was mother!” he shouted to the governess. “I knew!” And her son, like her husband, aroused in Anna a feeling akin to disappointment. She had imagined him better than he was in reality. She had to let herself drop down to the reality to enjoy him as he really was. But even as he was, he was charming, with his fair curls, his blue eyes, and his plump, graceful little legs in tightly pulled-up stockings. Anna experienced almost physical pleasure in the sensation of his nearness, and his caresses, and moral soothing, when she met his simple, confiding, and loving glance, and heard his naïve questions. Anna took out the presents Dolly’s children had sent him, and told her son what sort of little girl was Tanya at Moscow, and how Tanya could read, and even taught the other children. “Why, am I not so nice as she?” asked Seryozha. “To me you’re nicer than anyone in the world.” “I know that,” said Seryozha, smiling. Anna had not had time to drink her coffee when the Countess Lidia Ivanovna was announced. The Countess Lidia Ivanovna was a tall, stout woman, with an unhealthily sallow face and splendid, pensive black eyes. Anna liked her, but today she seemed to be seeing her for the first time with all her defects. “Well, my dear, so you took the olive branch?” inquired Countess Lidia Ivanovna, as soon as she came into the room. “Yes, it’s all over, but it was all much less serious than we had supposed,” answered Anna. “My _belle-sœur_ is in general too hasty.” But Countess Lidia Ivanovna, though she was interested in everything that did not concern her, had a habit of never listening to what interested her; she interrupted Anna: “Yes, there’s plenty of sorrow and evil in the world. I am so worried today.” “Oh, why?” asked Anna, trying to suppress a smile. “I’m beginning to be weary of fruitlessly championing the truth, and sometimes I’m quite unhinged by it. The Society of the Little Sisters” (this was a religiously-patriotic, philanthropic institution) “was going splendidly, but with these gentlemen it’s impossible to do anything,” added Countess Lidia Ivanovna in a tone of ironical submission to destiny. “They pounce on the idea, and distort it, and then work it out so pettily and unworthily. Two or three people, your husband among them, understand all the importance of the thing, but the others simply drag it down. Yesterday Pravdin wrote to me....” Pravdin was a well-known Panslavist abroad, and Countess Lidia Ivanovna described the purport of his letter. Then the countess told her of more disagreements and intrigues against the work of the unification of the churches, and departed in haste, as she had that...
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Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Toxic Isolation - When Love Becomes a Prison
When relationships cut off from community support turn inward and consume themselves through possessiveness and impossible expectations.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when love is being used to justify cutting off healthy connections and support systems.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone asks you to choose between them and other relationships, or when you feel like you're becoming someone's entire emotional world.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Terms to Know
Social ostracism
Being deliberately excluded from society as punishment for breaking social rules. In Anna's Russia, women who had affairs were cut off from respectable society completely. This isolation was designed to punish and control women's behavior.
Modern Usage:
We see this in cancel culture, workplace exclusion after scandals, or how divorced women in conservative communities might be dropped from social circles.
Passion trap
When intense romantic feelings that initially feel liberating become confining and destructive. The very emotions that seemed to promise freedom end up creating new forms of imprisonment through jealousy, obsession, and isolation.
Modern Usage:
This happens in toxic relationships where the highs are incredible but the lows destroy your life, career, and other relationships.
Double standard
Different rules for men and women regarding the same behavior. Vronsky faces social inconvenience for the affair, while Anna faces complete ruin. Men could have mistresses with minimal consequences, but women lost everything.
Modern Usage:
We still see this in how society judges women versus men for having multiple partners, being ambitious, or prioritizing career over family.
Gilded cage
A situation that looks luxurious from the outside but is actually a form of imprisonment. Anna has Vronsky's love and financial support, but she's trapped by social consequences and can't live freely.
Modern Usage:
Like being a trophy wife with money but no independence, or having a high-paying job that makes you miserable but you can't leave.
Emotional codependency
When two people become so psychologically dependent on each other that they lose their individual identities and blame each other for their unhappiness. Neither can function independently anymore.
Modern Usage:
Common in relationships where couples can't spend time apart, constantly check each other's phones, or make their partner responsible for all their emotions.
Sunk cost fallacy
Continuing a destructive situation because you've already sacrificed so much for it. Anna and Vronsky stay together partly because they've given up too much to quit now, even though they're miserable.
Modern Usage:
Like staying in a bad marriage because of the years invested, or finishing a degree you hate because you've already spent the money.
Characters in This Chapter
Anna
Tragic protagonist
She's spiraling into despair as the reality of her choices hits home. Her isolation from society is driving her to paranoia and desperation. She's becoming increasingly dependent on Vronsky for all emotional support, which is suffocating both of them.
Modern Equivalent:
The woman who left her stable life for a passionate affair and now realizes she's burned all her bridges
Vronsky
Conflicted lover
He's starting to feel trapped by the responsibility of Anna's situation and nostalgic for his old freedom. While he still loves Anna, he's beginning to resent how their relationship has limited his life and social standing.
Modern Equivalent:
The guy who thought he wanted the intense relationship but now misses his independence and friends
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Love those that hate you, but to love those one hates is impossible."
Context: Anna reflects on how her situation has made her bitter toward the society that rejects her
This reveals how Anna's isolation has turned her love into resentment. She's caught between needing society's acceptance and hating them for rejecting her. The quote shows how external pressure can corrupt even our capacity for love.
In Today's Words:
It's easy to love people who love you back, but impossible to love people who make you hate yourself.
"He had long been wanting not to deceive himself that he was satisfied with his position."
Context: Vronsky finally admits to himself that he's not happy with how his life has turned out
This shows Vronsky's growing self-awareness about his dissatisfaction. He's been lying to himself about being content, but the truth is breaking through. It reveals how people can stay in situations by refusing to acknowledge their real feelings.
In Today's Words:
He'd been lying to himself for a long time about being okay with how things turned out.
"She felt that the love between them was becoming something burdensome."
Context: Anna realizes their passionate love has become a weight rather than a joy
This captures the central tragedy - that their great love has become their prison. What once felt like freedom now feels like obligation and pressure. It shows how external circumstances can poison even the deepest feelings.
In Today's Words:
Their love had stopped feeling like a gift and started feeling like a burden they both had to carry.
Thematic Threads
Isolation
In This Chapter
Anna and Vronsky's relationship exists completely cut off from social acceptance, making them dependent solely on each other
Development
Evolved from earlier social rejection into complete emotional isolation that's poisoning their love
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when a relationship demands you cut ties with friends or family 'for love.'
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Society's refusal to accept their relationship creates impossible pressure that turns their love toxic
Development
The social consequences that seemed manageable early on now feel crushing and inescapable
In Your Life:
You face this when your choices put you outside your community's acceptance and you feel the weight of constant judgment.
Identity
In This Chapter
Anna has lost her social identity and Vronsky has lost his freedom, leaving both questioning who they are
Development
Both characters' sense of self, previously clear, is now completely destabilized by their choices
In Your Life:
This happens when a major life change makes you feel like you don't know who you are anymore.
Responsibility
In This Chapter
Vronsky feels crushing responsibility for Anna's happiness while resenting the burden this creates
Development
What began as protective devotion has become an impossible weight that breeds resentment
In Your Life:
You experience this when someone makes you responsible for their entire emotional well-being.
Passion vs. Sustainability
In This Chapter
The intense passion that brought them together now feels suffocating and unsustainable
Development
The fire that seemed like their salvation is now burning them both alive
In Your Life:
This appears when the very intensity that attracted you to someone becomes the thing that's destroying the relationship.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific changes do you see in Anna and Vronsky's relationship compared to when they first fell in love?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does their isolation from society make their love feel suffocating instead of freeing?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see couples today cutting themselves off from friends and family 'for love'? How does that usually end?
application • medium - 4
If you were Anna's friend, what advice would you give her about maintaining her relationship while reconnecting with community?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about the difference between healthy interdependence and toxic codependence?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Relationship Ecosystem
Draw a simple diagram of your most important relationship (romantic, family, or friendship). Put that person in the center, then map all the other people and activities that feed into your life and theirs. Look at the connections—are you both drawing energy from multiple sources, or is everything flowing through just one relationship?
Consider:
- •Notice if either person has become the sole source of validation or social connection for the other
- •Identify any relationships that were sacrificed 'for love' and whether that strengthened or weakened the primary bond
- •Consider whether your relationship encourages or discourages connections with others
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you felt suffocated in a relationship or when someone became too dependent on you. What warning signs did you notice, and how would you handle it differently now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 33
What lies ahead teaches us key events and character development in this chapter, and shows us thematic elements and literary techniques. These patterns appear in literature and life alike.