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evin emptied his glass, and they were silent for a while.
“There’s one other thing I ought to tell you. Do you know Vronsky?”
Stepan Arkadyevitch asked Levin.
“No, I don’t. Why do you ask?”
“Give us another bottle,” Stepan Arkadyevitch directed the Tatar, who
was filling up their glasses and fidgeting round them just when he was
not wanted.
“Why you ought to know Vronsky is that he’s one of your rivals.”
“Who’s Vronsky?” said Levin, and his face was suddenly transformed from
the look of childlike ecstasy which Oblonsky had just been admiring to
an angry and unpleasant expression.
“Vronsky is one of the sons of Count Kirill Ivanovitch Vronsky, and one
of the finest specimens of the gilded youth of Petersburg. I made his
acquaintance in Tver when I was there on official business, and he came
there for the levy of recruits. Fearfully rich, handsome, great
connections, an aide-de-camp, and with all that a very nice,
good-natured fellow. But he’s more than simply a good-natured fellow,
as I’ve found out here—he’s a cultivated man, too, and very
intelligent; he’s a man who’ll make his mark.”
Levin scowled and was dumb.
“Well, he turned up here soon after you’d gone, and as I can see, he’s
over head and ears in love with Kitty, and you know that her
mother....”
“Excuse me, but I know nothing,” said Levin, frowning gloomily. And
immediately he recollected his brother Nikolay and how hateful he was
to have been able to forget him.
“You wait a bit, wait a bit,” said Stepan Arkadyevitch, smiling and
touching his hand. “I’ve told you what I know, and I repeat that in
this delicate and tender matter, as far as one can conjecture, I
believe the chances are in your favor.”
Levin dropped back in his chair; his face was pale.
“But I would advise you to settle the thing as soon as may be,” pursued
Oblonsky, filling up his glass.
“No, thanks, I can’t drink any more,” said Levin, pushing away his
glass. “I shall be drunk.... Come, tell me how are you getting on?” he
went on, obviously anxious to change the conversation.
“One word more: in any case I advise you to settle the question soon.
Tonight I don’t advise you to speak,” said Stepan Arkadyevitch. “Go
round tomorrow morning, make an offer in due form, and God bless
you....”
“Oh, do you still think of coming to me for some shooting? Come next
spring, do,” said Levin.
Now his whole soul was full of remorse that he had begun this
conversation with Stepan Arkadyevitch. A feeling such as his was
profaned by talk of the rivalry of some Petersburg officer, of the
suppositions and the counsels of Stepan Arkadyevitch.
Stepan Arkadyevitch smiled. He knew what was passing in Levin’s soul.
“I’ll come some day,” he said. “But women, my boy, they’re the pivot
everything turns upon. Things are in a bad way with me, very bad. And
it’s all through women. Tell me frankly now,” he pursued, picking up a
cigar and keeping one hand on his glass; “give me your advice.”
“Why, what is it?”
“I’ll tell you. Suppose you’re married, you love your wife, but you’re
fascinated by another woman....”
“Excuse me, but I’m absolutely unable to comprehend how ... just as I
can’t comprehend how I could now, after my dinner, go straight to a
baker’s shop and steal a roll.”
Stepan Arkadyevitch’s eyes sparkled more than usual.
“Why not? A roll will sometimes smell so good one can’t resist it.”
“Himmlisch ist’s, wenn ich bezwungen
Meine irdische Begier;
Aber doch wenn’s nich gelungen
Hatt’ ich auch recht hübsch Plaisir!”
As he said this, Stepan Arkadyevitch smiled subtly. Levin, too, could
not help smiling.
“Yes, but joking apart,” resumed Stepan Arkadyevitch, “you must
understand that the woman is a sweet, gentle loving creature, poor and
lonely, and has sacrificed everything. Now, when the thing’s done,
don’t you see, can one possibly cast her off? Even supposing one parts
from her, so as not to break up one’s family life, still, can one help
feeling for her, setting her on her feet, softening her lot?”
“Well, you must excuse me there. You know to me all women are divided
into two classes ... at least no ... truer to say: there are women and
there are ... I’ve never seen exquisite fallen beings, and I never
shall see them, but such creatures as that painted Frenchwoman at the
counter with the ringlets are vermin to my mind, and all fallen women
are the same.”
“But the Magdalen?”
“Ah, drop that! Christ would never have said those words if He had
known how they would be abused. Of all the Gospel those words are the
only ones remembered. However, I’m not saying so much what I think, as
what I feel. I have a loathing for fallen women. You’re afraid of
spiders, and I of these vermin. Most likely you’ve not made a study of
spiders and don’t know their character; and so it is with me.”
“It’s very well for you to talk like that; it’s very much like that
gentleman in Dickens who used to fling all difficult questions over his
right shoulder. But to deny the facts is no answer. What’s to be
done—you tell me that, what’s to be done? Your wife gets older, while
you’re full of life. Before you’ve time to look round, you feel that
you can’t love your wife with love, however much you may esteem her.
And then all at once love turns up, and you’re done for, done for,”
Stepan Arkadyevitch said with weary despair.
Levin half smiled.
“Yes, you’re done for,” resumed Oblonsky. “But what’s to be done?”
“Don’t steal rolls.”
Stepan Arkadyevitch laughed outright.
“Oh, moralist! But you must understand, there are two women; one
insists only on her rights, and those rights are your love, which you
can’t give her; and the other sacrifices everything for you and asks
for nothing. What are you to do? How are you to act? There’s a fearful
tragedy in it.”
“If you care for my profession of faith as regards that, I’ll tell you
that I don’t believe there was any tragedy about it. And this is why.
To my mind, love ... both the sorts of love, which you remember Plato
defines in his Banquet, served as the test of men. Some men only
understand one sort, and some only the other. And those who only know
the non-platonic love have no need to talk of tragedy. In such love
there can be no sort of tragedy. ‘I’m much obliged for the
gratification, my humble respects’—that’s all the tragedy. And in
platonic love there can be no tragedy, because in that love all is
clear and pure, because....”
At that instant Levin recollected his own sins and the inner conflict
he had lived through. And he added unexpectedly:
“But perhaps you are right. Very likely ... I don’t know, I don’t
know.”
“It’s this, don’t you see,” said Stepan Arkadyevitch, “you’re very much
all of a piece. That’s your strong point and your failing. You have a
character that’s all of a piece, and you want the whole of life to be
of a piece too—but that’s not how it is. You despise public official
work because you want the reality to be invariably corresponding all
the while with the aim—and that’s not how it is. You want a man’s work,
too, always to have a defined aim, and love and family life always to
be undivided—and that’s not how it is. All the variety, all the charm,
all the beauty of life is made up of light and shadow.”
Levin sighed and made no reply. He was thinking of his own affairs, and
did not hear Oblonsky.
And suddenly both of them felt that though they were friends, though
they had been dining and drinking together, which should have drawn
them closer, yet each was thinking only of his own affairs, and they
had nothing to do with one another. Oblonsky had more than once
experienced this extreme sense of aloofness, instead of intimacy,
coming on after dinner, and he knew what to do in such cases.
“Bill!” he called, and he went into the next room where he promptly
came across an aide-de-camp of his acquaintance and dropped into
conversation with him about an actress and her protector. And at once
in the conversation with the aide-de-camp Oblonsky had a sense of
relaxation and relief after the conversation with Levin, which always
put him to too great a mental and spiritual strain.
When the Tatar appeared with a bill for twenty-six roubles and odd
kopecks, besides a tip for himself, Levin, who would another time have
been horrified, like anyone from the country, at his share of fourteen
roubles, did not notice it, paid, and set off homewards to dress and go
to the Shtcherbatskys’ there to decide his fate.
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Let's Analyse the Pattern
Choosing what impresses others or excites us immediately over what actually serves our long-term wellbeing and happiness.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when we're rationalizing choices we know aren't in our best interest.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you're about to make a decision that feels exciting but conflicts with your stated values—pause and ask what you're really choosing.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"She was thinking of Vronsky and of the happiness that would be hers, and also of Levin; and she contrasted them."
Context: As Kitty sits at her dressing table preparing for the evening
This shows how Kitty is actively choosing between two different futures. The fact that she's 'contrasting' them reveals she knows they represent different paths, but she's making her choice based on immediate attraction rather than deeper compatibility.
In Today's Words:
She was weighing her options between the exciting guy and the steady one.
"No, it's impossible, she told herself, recalling his look when he saw Levin."
Context: When she briefly doubts whether Vronsky really cares for her
Kitty is already seeing signs that Vronsky might not be as interested as she hopes, but she's pushing away her doubts. This shows how we often ignore red flags when we want something badly enough.
In Today's Words:
No way, she told herself, remembering how he acted around the other guy.
"She felt sorry for Levin, and this sorrow gave a disagreeable tinge to the happiness she was expecting."
Context: As Kitty thinks about rejecting Levin's proposal
Kitty's guilt about hurting Levin shows she recognizes his genuine feelings, but she's still choosing excitement over kindness. The fact that her guilt taints her happiness suggests her instincts know something's wrong with her choice.
In Today's Words:
She felt bad about hurting the nice guy, and it put a damper on her excitement about the other one.
Thematic Threads
Class
In This Chapter
Kitty's attraction to Vronsky's military status and social position over Levin's genuine character
Development
Building from earlier establishment of social hierarchies and their power over individual choices
In Your Life:
You might find yourself impressed by someone's job title or possessions rather than their actual character or how they treat you.
Identity
In This Chapter
Kitty defines herself through which suitor she attracts, seeing her worth reflected in their social status
Development
Continues theme of characters seeking validation through others' perceptions
In Your Life:
You might catch yourself feeling more valuable when attractive or successful people pay attention to you.
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Kitty has been shaped to value what society celebrates in men—charm and status over depth and loyalty
Development
Deepens exploration of how society programs our desires and choices
In Your Life:
You might realize you're pursuing goals that look good to others rather than what actually makes you happy.
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Kitty's inexperience leads her to mistake surface attraction for love and compatibility
Development
Introduced here as contrast to other characters' hard-won wisdom
In Your Life:
You might recognize times when your lack of experience led you to trust appearances over substance.
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
The contrast between Vronsky's exciting but shallow appeal and Levin's deeper but less thrilling devotion
Development
Continues examination of what makes relationships genuine versus superficial
In Your Life:
You might notice the difference between people who excite you and people who actually care about your wellbeing.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What two different futures does Kitty see represented by her two suitors, and which one is she planning to choose?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Kitty feel so certain that Vronsky will propose, and what does this reveal about her experience with relationships?
analysis • medium - 3
Where do you see people today choosing the 'Vronsky option' over the 'Levin option' in dating, career choices, or major purchases?
application • medium - 4
If you were Kitty's friend, what questions would you ask her to help her think more clearly about this decision?
application • deep - 5
What does Kitty's situation teach us about how society shapes what we think we want versus what actually makes us happy?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Create Your Glitter vs. Gold Test
Think of a current decision you're facing or a recent choice you made. Create two columns: 'What Impresses Me Now' and 'What Will Matter in 5 Years.' Fill in each column honestly, then compare them. This reveals your own glitter traps.
Consider:
- •Notice which column is easier to fill - that tells you what you naturally focus on
- •Look for patterns in what consistently appears in your '5 years' column across different decisions
- •Consider how peer pressure or social media might be influencing your 'impresses me now' list
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you chose glitter over gold, or when you resisted the temptation and chose substance instead. What did you learn from that experience?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 12
The evening unfolds at the grand ball, where Kitty waits for Vronsky's proposal while other dramas simmer beneath the glittering surface. But sometimes the night we've planned for turns out very differently than we imagined.




