Summary
Smith explores a counterintuitive truth about human relationships: we don't automatically feel grateful when someone helps us, nor do we automatically sympathize with someone who's been hurt. Instead, our emotional responses depend entirely on whether we approve of the helper's motives or the victim's situation. When someone gives us a massive benefit but for foolish reasons—like a rich person randomly giving away money just because they like your name—we feel less gratitude than we 'should.' Smith uses the example of King James I, who showered favorites with wealth and power but died friendless, while his more selective son Charles I inspired fierce loyalty despite being colder. On the flip side, when someone gets hurt but we believe they deserved it, we feel no sympathy for their anger or pain. Smith's example is stark: when a murderer faces execution, we might pity his suffering but we can't sympathize with any resentment he feels toward his judge or prosecutor. This chapter reveals how our moral judgments about motives and desert completely override our natural tendencies toward gratitude and sympathy. It's not enough to help someone or be hurt by someone—the 'why' behind actions determines whether we'll emotionally connect with the people involved. This insight explains why some generous people remain unloved while some harsh people inspire devotion, and why some victims receive sympathy while others are blamed.
Coming Up in Chapter 17
Smith prepares to tie together all his observations about sympathy, moral judgment, and human nature. He'll recap the key principles that govern how we evaluate both our own actions and those of others.
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That where there is no approbation of the conduct of the person who confers the benefit, there is little sympathy with the gratitude of him who receives it: and that, on the contrary, where there is no disapprobation of the motives of the person who does the mischief, there is no sort of sympathy with the resentment of him who suffers it. It is to be observed, however, that, how beneficial soever on the one hand, or how hurtful soever on the other, the actions or intentions of the person who acts may have been to the person who is, if I may say so, acted upon, yet if in the one case there appears to have been no propriety in the motives of the agent, if we cannot enter into the affections which influenced his conduct, we have little sympathy with the gratitude of the person who receives the benefit: or if, in the other case, there appears to have been no impropriety in the motives of the agent, if, on the contrary, the affections which influenced his conduct are such as we must necessarily enter into, we can have no sort of sympathy with the resentment of the person who suffers. Little gratitude seems due in the one case, and all sort of resentment seems unjust in the other. The one action seems to merit little reward, the other to deserve no punishment. 1071. First, I say, that wherever we cannot sympathize with the affections of the agent, wherever there seems to be no propriety in the motives which influenced his conduct, we are less disposed to enter into the gratitude of the person who received the benefit of his actions. A very small return seems due to that foolish and profuse generosity which confers the greatest benefits from the most trivial motives, and gives an estate to a man merely because his name and surname happen to be the same with those of the giver. Such services do not seem to demand any proportionable recompense. Our contempt for the folly of the agent hinders us from thoroughly entering into the gratitude of the person to whom the good office has been done. His benefactor seems unworthy of it. As when we place ourselves in the situation of the person obliged, we feel that we could conceive no great reverence for such a benefactor, we easily absolve him from a great deal of that submissive veneration and esteem which we should think due to a more respectable character; and provided he always treats his weak friend with kindness and humanity, we are willing to excuse him from many attentions and regards which we should demand to a worthier patron. Those Princes, who have heaped, with the greatest profusion, wealth, power, and honours, upon their favourites, have seldom excited that degree of attachment to their persons which has often been experienced by those who were more frugal of their favours. The well-natured, but injudicious prodigality of James the First...
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Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Motive Over Merit - Why Good Deeds Don't Guarantee Good Feelings
People's emotional responses depend more on their judgment of someone's motives than on the actual benefits or harms received.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how people's emotional responses are secretly filtered through their moral evaluation of motives and desert.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone doesn't seem grateful for help they received, or when you find yourself unsympathetic to someone's complaints—ask what judgment about motives or deservingness is really driving the reaction.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Terms to Know
Sympathy
Smith's technical term for our ability to emotionally connect with others by imagining ourselves in their situation. It's not just feeling sorry for someone—it's actually sharing their emotional experience through mental simulation.
Modern Usage:
We see this when we cringe watching someone embarrass themselves on TV or feel proud when our favorite team wins.
Propriety
The appropriateness of someone's motives and emotions given their situation. Smith argues we judge actions not just by their results, but by whether the feelings behind them make sense to us.
Modern Usage:
We use this when we say someone's anger is 'justified' or their generosity seems 'fake'—we're evaluating the appropriateness of their motives.
Desert
What someone deserves based on their actions and character. Smith shows how our sense of what people deserve shapes whether we feel sympathy for their joy or suffering.
Modern Usage:
This drives our reactions to celebrity scandals—we feel less sorry for someone's downfall if we think they 'had it coming.'
Gratitude
Not just saying 'thank you,' but the deep emotional response to beneficial actions. Smith reveals that gratitude depends more on approving of the giver's motives than on the size of the benefit received.
Modern Usage:
We feel more grateful for a friend's small thoughtful gesture than for a stranger's large but impersonal donation.
Resentment
The emotional response to being harmed or wronged. Smith argues that whether others sympathize with our resentment depends on whether they think the harm was justified.
Modern Usage:
This explains why some people get support when they complain about mistreatment while others are told they're 'playing victim.'
Agent
The person who performs an action, whether helpful or harmful. Smith focuses on how we judge the agent's motives rather than just the action's consequences.
Modern Usage:
In workplace conflicts, we evaluate not just what someone did but why they did it—their intentions matter as much as results.
Characters in This Chapter
King James I
Historical example
Smith uses James as an example of someone who gave enormous benefits to his favorites but for poor reasons—personal whim rather than merit. Despite his generosity, he died friendless because people couldn't respect his motives.
Modern Equivalent:
The lottery winner who randomly gives money to people but can't understand why nobody really likes them
Charles I
Contrasting example
James's son who was more selective and cooler in his generosity but inspired fierce loyalty. Smith shows how proper motives create stronger bonds than excessive but inappropriate kindness.
Modern Equivalent:
The tough but fair boss who earns more respect than the pushover who tries to buy friendship
The murderer
Hypothetical victim
Smith's example of someone whose suffering we might pity but whose resentment we cannot sympathize with because we believe he deserves his punishment.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who faces consequences for their bad choices and gets mad at everyone else
The judge
Righteous authority
Represents someone acting from proper motives when they harm another. Even though the murderer suffers, we can't sympathize with resentment toward the judge because the punishment is deserved.
Modern Equivalent:
The manager who has to fire someone for legitimate reasons
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Little gratitude seems due in the one case, and all sort of resentment seems unjust in the other."
Context: Smith summarizes how improper motives kill gratitude and how proper motives make resentment inappropriate
This captures Smith's central insight that our emotional responses aren't automatic—they depend entirely on our moral judgment of the situation. We don't just react to what happens to us, but to whether we think it should have happened.
In Today's Words:
When someone helps you for stupid reasons, you don't feel that grateful. When someone hurts you for good reasons, you can't really be mad.
"If we cannot enter into the affections which influenced his conduct, we have little sympathy with the gratitude of the person who receives the benefit."
Context: Explaining why we don't feel grateful when someone helps us for reasons we can't understand or approve of
Smith reveals that gratitude isn't just between giver and receiver—it requires social approval. If observers can't understand why someone helped, the help feels hollow and generates less genuine appreciation.
In Today's Words:
If we think someone's helping you for weird or selfish reasons, we don't expect you to be very thankful, and you probably won't be either.
"The one action seems to merit little reward, the other to deserve no punishment."
Context: Connecting our emotional responses to our sense of what people deserve
This shows how Smith links individual emotions to social justice. Our personal feelings of gratitude and resentment align with broader judgments about what actions should be rewarded or punished in society.
In Today's Words:
Good things done for bad reasons don't deserve much thanks, and bad things done for good reasons don't deserve payback.
Thematic Threads
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Smith reveals that gratitude and sympathy aren't automatic responses but depend entirely on moral approval of motives and circumstances
Development
Builds on earlier discussions of sympathy by showing its conditional nature
In Your Life:
You might notice feeling less grateful when someone helps you for selfish reasons, even when the help is substantial
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Society expects gratitude for benefits and sympathy for suffering, but these expectations ignore the role of moral judgment
Development
Extends previous themes about social approval by showing how moral evaluation precedes emotional response
In Your Life:
You might feel pressured to be grateful or sympathetic when your moral judgment says the person doesn't deserve it
Class
In This Chapter
King James I's random generosity to favorites created less loyalty than his son's more selective approach, showing how motive affects class relationships
Development
Continues exploration of how different classes relate and what creates genuine respect versus mere obligation
In Your Life:
You might find that coworkers respect the boss who promotes based on merit more than one who plays favorites
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Understanding that our emotional responses are filtered through moral judgment allows for more conscious relationship navigation
Development
Builds on earlier themes about self-awareness by revealing hidden mechanisms behind our feelings
In Your Life:
You might start examining your own motives before expecting gratitude, or questioning your judgments before withholding sympathy
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Why didn't King James I have loyal friends despite giving away massive wealth and power?
analysis • surface - 2
According to Smith, what determines whether we feel grateful to someone who helps us or sympathetic to someone who's been hurt?
analysis • medium - 3
Think of a time when someone helped you but you didn't feel very grateful, or when someone got hurt but you didn't feel sorry for them. What was your brain judging about their motives or situation?
application • medium - 4
How could understanding this 'motive judgment pattern' change how you approach helping others or asking for help at work or in your family?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about why some generous people remain lonely while some tough people inspire fierce loyalty?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Audit Your Motive Signals
Think of someone you've helped recently or plan to help. Write down what you did (or plan to do) and then honestly examine what signals you're sending about your motives. Are you making your reasons clear? Are you mentioning the help repeatedly? Are you helping for their benefit or your own satisfaction? Now flip it: think of someone who helped you. What did their behavior signal about their motives?
Consider:
- •Notice the difference between your stated reason for helping and any hidden reasons you might have
- •Pay attention to how helpers communicate about their assistance - do they make you feel indebted or empowered?
- •Consider whether you're judging someone's worthiness before offering sympathy or support
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you gave help but didn't receive the gratitude you expected. Looking back, what might your motives have signaled to the other person? How could you help differently next time?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 17: When Good Deeds Deserve Reward
The coming pages reveal helping others only earns respect when done for the right reasons, and teach us we judge whether someone deserves punishment or reward. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.