Summary
Smith explores a harsh truth about human nature: we're terrible at handling other people's dramatic success. When someone experiences sudden good fortune—a promotion, windfall, or social climb—even their closest friends struggle with genuine happiness for them. The newly successful person faces an impossible situation: old friends resent their rise, while new social circles view them as an outsider trying to break in. Smith argues this happens because we naturally feel more sympathy for small pleasures than great triumphs, and more compassion for deep suffering than minor complaints. The person who wins the lottery gets less genuine support than someone celebrating a good meal with friends. Meanwhile, we readily sympathize with genuine tragedy but roll our eyes at everyday frustrations. Smith suggests the happiest people are those who rise gradually, giving others time to adjust to their success. This chapter reveals why sudden life changes—even positive ones—can be so isolating and why maintaining relationships through major transitions requires careful navigation of human psychology. The key insight: if happiness comes from feeling loved and understood, then dramatic success often backfires by triggering the very envy and distance that destroys those connections we need most.
Coming Up in Chapter 11
Smith will examine why our sympathy for others' pain, while stronger than our sympathy for their joy, still falls far short of what the suffering person actually feels. This gap between observer and experience shapes how we judge others' reactions to both triumph and tragedy.
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Of the selfish passions. Besides those two opposite sets of passions, the social and unsocial, there is another which holds a sort of middle place between them; is never either so graceful as is sometimes the one set, nor is ever so odious as is sometimes the other. Grief and joy, when conceived upon account of our own private good or bad fortune, constitute this third set of passions. Even when excessive, they are never so disagreeable as excessive resentment, because no opposite sympathy can ever interest us against them: and when most suitable to their objects they are never so agreeable as impartial humanity and just benevolence; because no double sympathy can ever interest us for them. There is, however, this difference between grief and joy, that we are generally most disposed to sympathize with small joys and great sorrows. The man, who, by some sudden revolution of fortune, is lifted up all at once into a condition of life, greatly above what he had formerly lived in, may be assured that the congratulations of his best friends are not all of them perfectly sincere. An upstart, though of the greatest merit, is generally disagreeable, and a sentiment of envy commonly prevents us from heartily sympathizing with his joy. If he has any judgment he is sensible of 59this, and instead of appearing to be elated with his good fortune, he endeavours, as much as he can, to smother his joy, and keep down that elevation of mind with which his new circumstances naturally inspire him. He affects the same plainness of dress, and the same modesty of behaviour, which became him in his former station. He redoubles his attention to his old friends, and endeavours more than ever to be humble, assiduous, and complaisant. And this is the behaviour which in his situation we most approve of; because we expect, it seems, that he should have more sympathy with our envy and aversion to his happiness, than we have with his happiness. It is seldom that with all this he succeeds. We suspect the sincerity of his humility, and he grows weary of this constraint. In a little time, therefore, he generally leaves all his old friends behind him, some of the meanest of them excepted, who may, perhaps, condescend to become his dependents: nor does he always acquire any new ones; the pride of his new connections is as much affronted at finding him their equal, as that of his old ones had been by his becoming their superior: and it requires the most obstinate and persevering modesty to atone for this mortification to either. He generally grows weary too soon, and is provoked, by the sullen and suspicious pride of the one, and by the saucy contempt of the other, to treat the first with neglect, and the second with petulance, till at last he grows habitually insolent, and forfeits the esteem of all. If the chief part of human happiness arises from the consciousness of...
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Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Sudden Success - When Good Fortune Backfires
Dramatic positive changes trigger envy and distance from others, isolating people precisely when they need support most.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to recognize when someone's good fortune triggers automatic resentment in others, including yourself.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when you feel genuinely happy for someone versus when you feel that subtle sting of envy - then ask what the difference reveals about human psychology.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Terms to Know
Sympathy
Smith's core concept - not just feeling sorry for someone, but our ability to imagine ourselves in their situation and feel what they feel. It's the foundation of all moral judgment and social connection.
Modern Usage:
We see this when we cringe watching someone embarrass themselves on TV, or feel nervous watching a friend give a presentation.
Social passions
Emotions that bring people together - love, friendship, gratitude, compassion. These feelings create bonds and make society work by encouraging cooperation and mutual care.
Modern Usage:
The warm feelings that make us help neighbors, celebrate friends' achievements, or donate to causes we care about.
Unsocial passions
Emotions that drive people apart - hatred, resentment, anger, envy. These feelings create conflict and division, making it hard for society to function peacefully.
Modern Usage:
Road rage, workplace grudges, political hatred, or the bitterness that destroys families during inheritance disputes.
Selfish passions
The middle ground emotions focused on our own private experiences - personal grief, joy, fear, or hope. Neither socially bonding nor destructive, just self-focused.
Modern Usage:
Being excited about your own vacation, grieving a personal loss, or worrying about your own health issues.
Upstart
Someone who has recently risen above their original social station, often viewed with suspicion or resentment by both their old and new social circles.
Modern Usage:
The coworker who gets promoted and suddenly acts different, or the friend who comes into money and starts name-dropping expensive restaurants.
Double sympathy
When we feel good about feeling the same way as someone else - like when we both love the same movie. It creates a warm connection because our emotions align perfectly.
Modern Usage:
The bond you feel when you and a friend both hate the same annoying person, or when you discover you both love the same obscure band.
Impartial spectator
Smith's concept of an imaginary neutral observer inside our heads who helps us judge whether our emotions are appropriate and reasonable in any situation.
Modern Usage:
That voice asking 'Am I overreacting?' or 'Would a reasonable person be this upset?' when we're trying to figure out if our feelings make sense.
Characters in This Chapter
The man lifted by sudden fortune
Example figure
Smith uses this unnamed character to show how sudden success isolates people. He must hide his joy to avoid triggering envy, creating a lonely situation where he can't fully enjoy his good fortune.
Modern Equivalent:
The lottery winner who discovers their friends treat them differently
The upstart of greatest merit
Tragic figure
Even someone who truly deserves their success faces social rejection. Smith shows how merit doesn't protect against envy, revealing the unfairness of how we treat social climbers.
Modern Equivalent:
The scholarship kid at an elite school who never quite fits in despite earning their place
Best friends
False supporters
Smith reveals that even our closest relationships can't survive major success unchanged. Their insincere congratulations show how envy corrupts even genuine friendships.
Modern Equivalent:
The friends who smile to your face about your promotion but gossip behind your back
Key Quotes & Analysis
"The man, who, by some sudden revolution of fortune, is lifted up all at once into a condition of life, greatly above what he had formerly lived in, may be assured that the congratulations of his best friends are not all of them perfectly sincere."
Context: Smith explains why sudden success is socially isolating
This brutal honesty about human nature shows that even close friends struggle with genuine happiness for dramatic success. It reveals how envy operates beneath polite social surfaces, making sudden good fortune a lonely experience.
In Today's Words:
When you suddenly get rich or famous, don't expect your friends to be genuinely happy for you - some of that congratulations is fake.
"An upstart, though of the greatest merit, is generally disagreeable, and a sentiment of envy commonly prevents us from heartily sympathizing with his joy."
Context: Explaining why even deserving people face resentment when they rise quickly
Smith shows that merit doesn't protect against social rejection. Even when someone truly deserves success, rapid advancement triggers envy that overrides fairness, revealing the irrational side of human judgment.
In Today's Words:
Even when someone totally deserves their success, we still find them annoying if they rise too fast - and that's just jealousy talking.
"We are generally most disposed to sympathize with small joys and great sorrows."
Context: Describing the pattern of human emotional response to others' experiences
This insight explains why dramatic success feels isolating while small pleasures bring people together. It shows the counterintuitive nature of sympathy and why major life changes can damage relationships.
In Today's Words:
We're better at being happy for someone's small wins than their huge victories, and better at caring about big tragedies than everyday complaints.
Thematic Threads
Class
In This Chapter
Success creates instant class barriers—old friends see betrayal, new circles see intrusion
Development
Builds on earlier class themes by showing how mobility itself becomes the problem
In Your Life:
Notice how your own success or others' changes your social dynamics, even with family
Identity
In This Chapter
Sudden fortune creates identity crisis—you're no longer who you were but not yet accepted as who you're becoming
Development
Deepens identity exploration by showing external success can destabilize internal sense of self
In Your Life:
Major life changes often leave you feeling like you don't belong anywhere
Human Relationships
In This Chapter
Relationships strain under success because we sympathize more with small joys than great triumphs
Development
Continues relationship analysis by revealing how good news can damage bonds
In Your Life:
Your biggest victories might be the hardest to share with the people closest to you
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Society expects gradual rise—sudden elevation violates unspoken rules about 'staying in your place'
Development
Expands on social pressure themes by showing expectations apply even to positive changes
In Your Life:
People may punish you for changing too quickly, even in positive directions
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
True growth requires managing not just your own response to success but others' reactions to your changes
Development
Advances growth themes by adding social navigation as essential skill
In Your Life:
Your personal development affects everyone around you, requiring careful relationship management
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
According to Smith, what happens to our friendships when we experience sudden success or dramatic good fortune?
analysis • surface - 2
Why do we find it easier to celebrate someone's small pleasures (like a good meal) than their major triumphs (like a big promotion)?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about someone you know who got a big promotion, won money, or experienced sudden success. How did people around them react? Did you notice any changes in their relationships?
application • medium - 4
If you were about to experience a major positive change in your life, how would you handle it to maintain your important relationships?
application • deep - 5
What does this pattern reveal about what humans really need to be happy, and why success alone isn't enough?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Success Reactions
Think of three people in your life who have experienced different levels of success recently - someone with a small win, someone with a moderate achievement, and someone with a major breakthrough. Write down your honest first reaction to each person's news. Then analyze: which was easiest to celebrate genuinely? Which triggered any negative feelings? What does this reveal about your own psychology?
Consider:
- •Be honest about any jealousy or resentment - these are normal human reactions
- •Notice if your reaction changed based on how close you are to the person
- •Consider whether the person's attitude about their success affected your response
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when your own success created unexpected distance in a relationship. What would you do differently now, knowing what Smith teaches about human psychology?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 11: Why We Feel Others' Pain More Than Their Joy
As the story unfolds, you'll explore to recognize why people seem more comfortable sharing problems than celebrating wins, while uncovering maintaining composure during hardship earns more respect than restraint during good times. These lessons connect the classic to contemporary challenges we all face.