Summary
Missing What We Can't Have
The Awakening by Kate Chopin
Edna is drowning in Robert's absence. Everything feels drained of color and meaning since he left for Mexico five days ago. She haunts his mother's room, poring over old family photos like a detective searching for clues to who he really is. When she finds his goodbye letter, she's crushed that it was written to his mother, not her, with only a casual postscript mentioning her. Even her husband notices something's off, asking how she's managing without Robert. The twisted part? Edna doesn't find it strange at all that she's making Robert the center of every conversation, including with her own husband. She's operating on a completely different emotional frequency than everyone around her. Enter Mademoiselle Reisz, the sharp-tongued pianist who sees right through Edna's casual act. She delivers some hard truths about the Lebrun family dynamics - turns out Robert isn't the golden child Edna imagined, but rather the responsible one who sends his earnings home while his spoiled brother Victor gets all their mother's attention. Mademoiselle also drops gossip about Robert's past fight with Victor over a girl named Mariequita, which hits Edna like a slap. The conversation leaves Edna feeling poisoned and depressed. She escapes into the ocean, swimming with desperate abandon, hoping to wash away both Mademoiselle's venom and her own growing obsession. This chapter shows how longing can distort our perception of reality and how toxic people often disguise their cruelty as helpful honesty.
Coming Up in Chapter 17
Back in New Orleans, Edna must face the return to her regular life and social obligations. But something fundamental has shifted in her, and the old routines no longer fit.
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D“o you miss your friend greatly?” asked Mademoiselle Reisz one morning as she came creeping up behind Edna, who had just left her cottage on her way to the beach. She spent much of her time in the water since she had acquired finally the art of swimming. As their stay at Grand Isle drew near its close, she felt that she could not give too much time to a diversion which afforded her the only real pleasurable moments that she knew. When Mademoiselle Reisz came and touched her upon the shoulder and spoke to her, the woman seemed to echo the thought which was ever in Edna’s mind; or, better, the feeling which constantly possessed her. Robert’s going had some way taken the brightness, the color, the meaning out of everything. The conditions of her life were in no way changed, but her whole existence was dulled, like a faded garment which seems to be no longer worth wearing. She sought him everywhere—in others whom she induced to talk about him. She went up in the mornings to Madame Lebrun’s room, braving the clatter of the old sewing-machine. She sat there and chatted at intervals as Robert had done. She gazed around the room at the pictures and photographs hanging upon the wall, and discovered in some corner an old family album, which she examined with the keenest interest, appealing to Madame Lebrun for enlightenment concerning the many figures and faces which she discovered between its pages. There was a picture of Madame Lebrun with Robert as a baby, seated in her lap, a round-faced infant with a fist in his mouth. The eyes alone in the baby suggested the man. And that was he also in kilts, at the age of five, wearing long curls and holding a whip in his hand. It made Edna laugh, and she laughed, too, at the portrait in his first long trousers; while another interested her, taken when he left for college, looking thin, long-faced, with eyes full of fire, ambition and great intentions. But there was no recent picture, none which suggested the Robert who had gone away five days ago, leaving a void and wilderness behind him. “Oh, Robert stopped having his pictures taken when he had to pay for them himself! He found wiser use for his money, he says,” explained Madame Lebrun. She had a letter from him, written before he left New Orleans. Edna wished to see the letter, and Madame Lebrun told her to look for it either on the table or the dresser, or perhaps it was on the mantelpiece. The letter was on the bookshelf. It possessed the greatest interest and attraction for Edna; the envelope, its size and shape, the post-mark, the handwriting. She examined every detail of the outside before opening it. There were only a few lines, setting forth that he would leave the city that afternoon, that he had packed his trunk in good shape, that he was well, and...
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Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Toxic Truth-Tellers - When Honesty Becomes Weaponized
Using the guise of truth-telling to deliver cruelty while avoiding accountability for the harm caused.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to distinguish between helpful truth and cruelty disguised as honesty by examining the messenger's motives and delivery method.
Practice This Today
Next time someone shares painful information about you or someone you care about, ask yourself: are they telling me this to help me or to hurt me?
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Terms to Know
Creole society
A tight-knit social group in Louisiana descended from French and Spanish colonists. Everyone knew everyone's business, and there were strict unwritten rules about proper behavior, especially for married women.
Modern Usage:
Like living in a small town where gossip travels fast and everyone judges your personal choices.
Proprietary love
When someone treats another person like they own them, expecting exclusive attention and devotion. It's possessive rather than genuine care for the other person's wellbeing.
Modern Usage:
The friend who gets jealous when you hang out with other people, or partners who check your phone constantly.
Emotional projection
Assuming other people feel the same way you do about a situation. Edna thinks Robert must be suffering like she is, but she has no actual evidence of this.
Modern Usage:
When you're devastated after a breakup and convince yourself your ex must be equally heartbroken.
Social triangulation
Using other people to get information about someone you're obsessed with. Instead of direct communication, you pump mutual friends for details and clues.
Modern Usage:
Stalking someone's social media through their friends' posts or asking coworkers about your crush.
Romanticizing absence
Making someone more perfect in your mind after they leave. Distance allows fantasy to replace reality, and you forget their flaws while magnifying their good qualities.
Modern Usage:
Missing your toxic ex and only remembering the good times, or idealizing a friend who moved away.
Emotional eavesdropping
Desperately searching for any mention of someone you're obsessed with, hanging on every word others say about them, even when the conversation isn't meant for you.
Modern Usage:
Constantly checking if someone mentioned you in group chats or listening too hard when people talk about your crush.
Characters in This Chapter
Edna Pontellier
Obsessed protagonist
She's completely consumed by Robert's absence, turning every conversation toward him and desperately seeking any connection to him through his family photos and belongings. Her behavior shows how infatuation can make someone lose perspective.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend who can't stop talking about their ex and makes everything about their relationship drama
Mademoiselle Reisz
Toxic truth-teller
She appears like a predator sensing weakness, immediately zeroing in on Edna's emotional state. She delivers harsh gossip about Robert's family while pretending to be helpful, leaving Edna feeling worse.
Modern Equivalent:
The coworker who shares mean gossip under the guise of 'just looking out for you'
Robert Lebrun
Absent obsession
Though physically gone, he dominates the entire chapter through Edna's desperate search for traces of him. His casual goodbye letter reveals how differently he views their relationship compared to her intensity.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who ghosted you but still lives rent-free in your head
Madame Lebrun
Unwitting enabler
She innocently provides Edna with family photos and stories about Robert, not realizing she's feeding an unhealthy obsession. Her casual treatment of Robert's departure contrasts with Edna's devastation.
Modern Equivalent:
The friend's mom who overshares family details without realizing you're way too invested
Léonce Pontellier
Oblivious husband
He notices something's wrong with Edna but completely misses that she's pining for another man. His concern seems genuine but surface-level, showing the emotional distance in their marriage.
Modern Equivalent:
The partner who asks 'Are you okay?' but doesn't really want to hear the real answer
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Robert's going had some way taken the brightness, the color, the meaning out of everything."
Context: Describing how Edna feels after Robert leaves for Mexico
This shows how Edna has made Robert the center of her entire emotional world. When he leaves, she loses all sense of purpose and joy, which reveals how dependent she's become on external validation for happiness.
In Today's Words:
Without him around, nothing felt worth doing anymore.
"She sought him everywhere—in others whom she induced to talk about him."
Context: Describing Edna's desperate attempts to feel connected to Robert through other people
This reveals obsessive behavior disguised as casual interest. Edna is manipulating conversations to get her emotional fix, showing how infatuation can make someone calculating and dishonest.
In Today's Words:
She kept steering every conversation back to him, fishing for any mention of his name.
"The woman seemed to echo the thought which was ever in Edna's mind."
Context: When Mademoiselle Reisz asks if Edna misses her friend
This shows how consumed Edna is with thoughts of Robert - she's so obsessed that a simple question feels like mind-reading. It also reveals how obvious her feelings have become to others.
In Today's Words:
It was like she could read her mind, asking exactly what she'd been thinking about nonstop.
Thematic Threads
Obsession
In This Chapter
Edna makes Robert the center of every conversation, even with her husband, showing how obsession warps normal social boundaries
Development
Evolved from innocent attraction to consuming fixation that distorts her reality
In Your Life:
When you find yourself steering every conversation toward one person or topic, you've crossed into obsession territory.
Longing
In This Chapter
Edna haunts Robert's mother's room, studying old photos like a detective searching for clues about who he really is
Development
Deepened from romantic interest to desperate need for connection with someone who's absent
In Your Life:
That urge to scroll through someone's social media for hours when they're not responding to your texts.
Toxic Relationships
In This Chapter
Mademoiselle Reisz delivers gossip about Robert's past disguised as helpful information, leaving Edna feeling poisoned
Development
Introduced here as a new dynamic showing how some people exploit vulnerability
In Your Life:
The friend who always has something negative to say about your romantic interests, claiming they're just looking out for you.
Reality Distortion
In This Chapter
Edna doesn't find it strange that she's obsessing over Robert in front of her own husband
Development
Progressed from small social missteps to complete disconnection from normal boundaries
In Your Life:
When your friends start giving you concerned looks about your behavior, but you can't see what they're worried about.
Emotional Escape
In This Chapter
Edna flees to the ocean, swimming desperately to wash away both the gossip and her own growing obsession
Development
Continued reliance on physical activity to manage overwhelming emotions
In Your Life:
That compulsive need to go for a drive, hit the gym, or clean the house when emotions become too much to handle.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What does Edna do when she misses Robert, and how does his goodbye letter affect her?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Mademoiselle Reisz share gossip about Robert's past with Mariequita and his family dynamics?
analysis • medium - 3
Where have you seen people deliver hurtful information while claiming they're 'just being honest' or 'helping you'?
application • medium - 4
How can you tell the difference between someone giving you hard truths because they care versus someone who enjoys watching you hurt?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter reveal about how longing and obsession can make us vulnerable to people who want to wound us?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Spot the Toxic Truth-Teller
Think of a time someone delivered painful information to you while claiming they were 'just being honest' or 'helping you.' Write down what they said, how they said it, and what happened afterward. Then analyze their true motives versus their stated motives.
Consider:
- •Did they deliver this information privately or in front of others?
- •Did they seem to enjoy your reaction or genuinely feel bad about hurting you?
- •Did they offer support or solutions, or just drop the bomb and walk away?
Journaling Prompt
Write about how you can protect yourself from toxic truth-tellers in the future. What warning signs will you watch for, and how will you respond when someone weaponizes honesty against you?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 17: The Perfect Prison
The coming pages reveal material comfort can mask emotional suffocation, and teach us breaking social expectations feels both terrifying and necessary. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.
