Summary
This chapter is Buddha's guide to recognizing wisdom—both in others and in yourself. He starts with a crucial life skill: identifying the right mentors. When you find someone who shows you what's truly valuable, points out dangers, and isn't afraid to correct you when you're wrong, follow them. Yes, they might make you uncomfortable sometimes, but that's exactly why they're worth listening to. Good people will appreciate their honesty; toxic people will hate them for it. Buddha warns against surrounding yourself with troublemakers or people who drag you down. Instead, seek out friends who challenge you to be better. The chapter then shifts to what wisdom looks like in practice. Wise people are like skilled craftsmen—they shape themselves deliberately, just as well-makers direct water and carpenters bend wood. They don't get rattled by criticism or puffed up by praise. They're like solid rock in the wind or a calm, deep lake. Here's a key insight: truly wise people don't chase success through shortcuts or unfair means. They don't desperately want wealth, power, or even family if it means compromising their integrity. Most people, Buddha observes, spend their lives running back and forth along the shore of understanding, never actually crossing to the other side. But those who truly listen to wisdom and apply it? They cross over completely, leaving behind the ordinary struggles that trap most of us. The chapter ends with a powerful image: the wise person who leaves behind attachment to pleasures and possessions, purging themselves of mental troubles, becomes free even while still living in this world.
Coming Up in Chapter 7
After learning to recognize wisdom, Buddha will reveal what it means to reach the ultimate level of understanding—the Arhat, someone who has achieved complete freedom from life's ordinary struggles and attachments.
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The Wise Man (Pandita) 76. If you see an intelligent man who tells you where true treasures are to be found, who shows what is to be avoided, and administers reproofs, follow that wise man; it will be better, not worse, for those who follow him. 77. Let him admonish, let him teach, let him forbid what is improper!--he will be beloved of the good, by the bad he will be hated. 78. Do not have evil-doers for friends, do not have low people for friends: have virtuous people for friends, have for friends the best of men. 79. He who drinks in the law lives happily with a serene mind: the sage rejoices always in the law, as preached by the elect (Ariyas). 80. Well-makers lead the water (wherever they like); fletchers bend the arrow; carpenters bend a log of wood; wise people fashion themselves. 81. As a solid rock is not shaken by the wind, wise people falter not amidst blame and praise. 82. Wise people, after they have listened to the laws, become serene, like a deep, smooth, and still lake. 83. Good people walk on whatever befall, the good do not prattle, longing for pleasure; whether touched by happiness or sorrow wise people never appear elated or depressed. 84. If, whether for his own sake, or for the sake of others, a man wishes neither for a son, nor for wealth, nor for lordship, and if he does not wish for his own success by unfair means, then he is good, wise, and virtuous. 85. Few are there among men who arrive at the other shore (become Arhats); the other people here run up and down the shore. 86. But those who, when the law has been well preached to them, follow the law, will pass across the dominion of death, however difficult to overcome. 87, 88. A wise man should leave the dark state (of ordinary life), and follow the bright state (of the Bhikshu). After going from his home to a homeless state, he should in his retirement look for enjoyment where there seemed to be no enjoyment. Leaving all pleasures behind, and calling nothing his own, the wise man should purge himself from all the troubles of the mind. 89. Those whose mind is well grounded in the (seven) elements of knowledge, who without clinging to anything, rejoice in freedom from attachment, whose appetites have been conquered, and who are full of light, are free (even) in this world.
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Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Choosing Your Circle
The people you spend time with gradually shape your values, decisions, and life trajectory through unconscious social influence.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how to identify which relationships are shaping you positively versus negatively, and how to deliberately choose better influences.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone's attitude starts affecting your own mood or decisions, and ask yourself whether that influence is making you better or just more comfortable with mediocrity.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Terms to Know
Pandita
A Sanskrit word meaning 'wise person' or 'learned one.' In Buddhist tradition, this refers to someone who has gained wisdom through understanding and practice, not just book learning. They can see through illusions and guide others.
Modern Usage:
Today we might call them mentors, life coaches, or that one friend who always gives solid advice and isn't afraid to tell you the truth.
Ariyas
The 'noble ones' or 'elect' in Buddhism - those who have achieved spiritual insight and can teach others. They've moved beyond ordinary concerns and see life clearly. Their teachings come from genuine understanding, not theory.
Modern Usage:
Like respected elders, successful people who share wisdom freely, or anyone whose life experience has given them clarity about what really matters.
The Law (Dharma)
Buddha's teachings about how life works - the principles that govern happiness, suffering, and human behavior. It's not rules imposed from outside, but natural patterns you can observe and follow for better outcomes.
Modern Usage:
Similar to evidence-based advice, proven life principles, or 'the way things actually work' versus how we wish they worked.
Serene mind
A state of inner calm that comes from understanding reality clearly. Not the absence of problems, but the ability to handle them without being overwhelmed or reactive. It's emotional stability based on wisdom.
Modern Usage:
Like having good emotional regulation, staying centered during stress, or being the person others turn to in a crisis because you don't panic.
Fashioning oneself
The deliberate work of shaping your character, habits, and responses through conscious effort. Like a craftsman working on material, wise people work on themselves to become who they want to be.
Modern Usage:
Personal development, working on yourself, building better habits, or any intentional effort to improve your mindset and behavior.
Crossing over
A metaphor for moving from confusion to clarity, from being trapped by circumstances to being free from them. It's about fundamentally changing your relationship to life's problems rather than just solving individual issues.
Modern Usage:
Like having a breakthrough moment, getting your life together, or finally understanding something that changes everything about how you approach problems.
Characters in This Chapter
The intelligent man
Mentor figure
This is the ideal teacher or guide who shows you real treasures (what's truly valuable), warns you about dangers, and isn't afraid to correct you when you're wrong. He represents the kind of person worth following even when it's uncomfortable.
Modern Equivalent:
The straight-talking mentor who actually cares about your success
The wise man/sage
Example of achieved wisdom
This character demonstrates what wisdom looks like in action - staying calm under pressure, not getting swayed by praise or criticism, and making decisions based on principles rather than emotions or immediate desires.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who has their life together and stays level-headed no matter what
Evil-doers and low people
Negative influences to avoid
These represent the people who will drag you down, encourage bad decisions, or keep you stuck in destructive patterns. Buddha warns against choosing them as friends because their influence is toxic.
Modern Equivalent:
The drama-filled friends who always have problems but never change
The good people
Positive community
These are the people who appreciate honesty, support growth, and maintain their integrity regardless of circumstances. They don't chase success through shortcuts or compromise their values for temporary gains.
Modern Equivalent:
The friends who genuinely want you to succeed and will call you out when you're making mistakes
Key Quotes & Analysis
"If you see an intelligent man who tells you where true treasures are to be found, who shows what is to be avoided, and administers reproofs, follow that wise man"
Context: Opening advice about choosing the right mentors and guides
This quote emphasizes that good mentors do three things: show you what's truly valuable, warn you about dangers, and correct you when you're wrong. The key insight is that someone willing to give you uncomfortable feedback is often more valuable than someone who just tells you what you want to hear.
In Today's Words:
When you find someone who shows you what really matters, warns you about red flags, and calls you out on your mistakes - stick with them.
"Do not have evil-doers for friends, do not have low people for friends: have virtuous people for friends, have for friends the best of men"
Context: Warning about choosing your social circle carefully
This is Buddha's version of 'you are the company you keep.' He's pointing out that your friends either lift you up or drag you down - there's no neutral ground. The people around you shape your standards and expectations.
In Today's Words:
Don't hang around with troublemakers or people who bring you down - choose friends who make you want to be better.
"As a solid rock is not shaken by the wind, wise people falter not amidst blame and praise"
Context: Describing the emotional stability of wise people
This metaphor shows that wisdom creates emotional stability. Wise people don't get devastated by criticism or inflated by compliments because they have an internal sense of their own worth that doesn't depend on others' opinions.
In Today's Words:
Smart people don't let other people's opinions mess with their heads - they stay steady whether people are criticizing or praising them.
"Well-makers lead the water wherever they like; fletchers bend the arrow; carpenters bend a log of wood; wise people fashion themselves"
Context: Explaining how wise people deliberately shape their character
This comparison to skilled craftsmen shows that becoming wise isn't accidental - it requires the same deliberate effort that craftsmen put into their work. Just as workers shape their materials, wise people consciously shape their thoughts, habits, and responses.
In Today's Words:
Just like skilled workers shape their materials, smart people work on shaping themselves.
Thematic Threads
Mentorship
In This Chapter
Buddha describes the value of finding people who show you what's truly important and aren't afraid to correct you
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might recognize this in a supervisor who pushes you to improve or a friend who calls out your self-destructive patterns
Social Influence
In This Chapter
The chapter warns against troublemakers and emphasizes seeking friends who challenge you to be better
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might notice how your mood and motivation change depending on which coworkers you spend breaks with
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Wise people deliberately shape themselves like craftsmen, staying steady through criticism and praise
Development
Builds on earlier themes of self-discipline and mindful living
In Your Life:
You might see this in how you react to feedback at work or comments from family members
Integrity
In This Chapter
Truly wise people don't chase success through shortcuts or compromise their values for wealth or power
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might face this when offered overtime that conflicts with family time or pressure to cut corners at work
Freedom
In This Chapter
Those who apply wisdom cross over from ordinary struggles and become free while still living in this world
Development
Introduced here
In Your Life:
You might experience this as moments when you stop being driven by what others expect and start living by your own values
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
Buddha says to follow people who point out what's valuable and aren't afraid to correct you. Why would this kind of person be worth listening to, even if they make you uncomfortable?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Buddha warn that good people will appreciate honest feedback while toxic people will hate the person giving it? What does this reveal about how different types of people handle truth?
analysis • medium - 3
Think about your workplace, family, or friend group. Where do you see people either lifting each other up or dragging each other down? What patterns do you notice?
application • medium - 4
Buddha describes wise people as being like solid rock in the wind—not rattled by criticism or puffed up by praise. How would developing this kind of stability change how you handle daily challenges?
application • deep - 5
Buddha says most people spend their lives running back and forth along the shore of understanding, never crossing to the other side. What keeps people stuck in patterns instead of actually changing?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Audit Your Circle
Write down the five people you spend the most time with. For each person, honestly assess: Do they challenge you to grow, keep you comfortable where you are, or pull you backward? Don't judge them as people—just notice the effect they have on your choices and mindset. Then identify one person you could spend more time with who would push you forward, and one influence you might need to limit.
Consider:
- •This isn't about cutting people off, but being intentional about influence
- •Sometimes family members who love you still hold you back from growth
- •The goal is awareness, not perfection—small shifts in who you listen to can create big changes
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when someone's honest feedback changed your direction for the better, even though it was hard to hear. What made you trust their perspective?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 7: The Finished Journey
The coming pages reveal to recognize when someone has truly found inner peace, and teach us letting go of attachments leads to genuine freedom. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.