Summary
Angel and Tess wake to face their first full day after her confession about Alec d'Urberville. The morning feels heavy with unspoken tension as Angel mechanically prepares breakfast while Tess sits dressed and waiting upstairs. Their conversation reveals the devastating gap between them—Angel desperately wants her confession to be untrue, while Tess can only repeat that every word was honest. When Tess suggests divorce as a solution, Angel explains she doesn't understand the law—her past doesn't provide legal grounds for divorce. In a heartbreaking moment, Tess admits she considered suicide the night before, thinking it would free Angel without scandal. Angel is horrified and makes her promise never to consider it again. They spend three agonizing days living as strangers in the same house. Angel goes through the motions of learning the milling business while Tess keeps house, both maintaining painful politeness. When Tess tries to kiss him goodbye, Angel coldly rebuffs her, explaining they're only staying together 'for form's sake' to avoid immediate scandal. Finally, Angel articulates his true concern—how can they build a life together knowing Alec still lives, and what would happen to their future children if the truth became known? Tess, devastated but understanding his logic, agrees they must separate. She will return home while Angel figures out their future. Both begin packing, knowing this separation might become permanent. The chapter shows how love alone cannot overcome fundamental incompatibilities in values and social expectations.
Coming Up in Chapter 37
As Angel and Tess prepare for their separation, the final arrangements reveal just how differently they view their marriage and future. The actual moment of parting will test whether any tenderness remains between them.
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Clare arose in the light of a dawn that was ashy and furtive, as though associated with crime. The fireplace confronted him with its extinct embers; the spread supper-table, whereon stood the two full glasses of untasted wine, now flat and filmy; her vacated seat and his own; the other articles of furniture, with their eternal look of not being able to help it, their intolerable inquiry what was to be done? From above there was no sound; but in a few minutes there came a knock at the door. He remembered that it would be the neighbouring cottager’s wife, who was to minister to their wants while they remained here. The presence of a third person in the house would be extremely awkward just now, and, being already dressed, he opened the window and informed her that they could manage to shift for themselves that morning. She had a milk-can in her hand, which he told her to leave at the door. When the dame had gone away he searched in the back quarters of the house for fuel, and speedily lit a fire. There was plenty of eggs, butter, bread, and so on in the larder, and Clare soon had breakfast laid, his experiences at the dairy having rendered him facile in domestic preparations. The smoke of the kindled wood rose from the chimney without like a lotus-headed column; local people who were passing by saw it, and thought of the newly-married couple, and envied their happiness. Angel cast a final glance round, and then going to the foot of the stairs, called in a conventional voice— “Breakfast is ready!” He opened the front door, and took a few steps in the morning air. When, after a short space, he came back she was already in the sitting-room mechanically readjusting the breakfast things. As she was fully attired, and the interval since his calling her had been but two or three minutes, she must have been dressed or nearly so before he went to summon her. Her hair was twisted up in a large round mass at the back of her head, and she had put on one of the new frocks—a pale blue woollen garment with neck-frillings of white. Her hands and face appeared to be cold, and she had possibly been sitting dressed in the bedroom a long time without any fire. The marked civility of Clare’s tone in calling her seemed to have inspired her, for the moment, with a new glimmer of hope. But it soon died when she looked at him. The pair were, in truth, but the ashes of their former fires. To the hot sorrow of the previous night had succeeded heaviness; it seemed as if nothing could kindle either of them to fervour of sensation any more. He spoke gently to her, and she replied with a like undemonstrativeness. At last she came up to him, looking in his sharply-defined face as one who had no consciousness that her own...
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Intelligence Amplifier™ Analysis
The Road of Impossible Standards
When someone demands perfection from others to protect their own self-image, creating distance that destroys the very relationship they claim to value.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter shows how to identify when someone's affection depends on you being perfect rather than human.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when someone's love feels like it comes with a scorecard—if you have to earn affection through perfection, that's not actually love.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Terms to Know
for form's sake
Going through the motions of proper behavior to maintain appearances, even when the relationship is dead inside. In Victorian society, sudden separations caused scandal and social ruin.
Modern Usage:
Like staying together 'for the kids' or keeping up a professional relationship after a falling out to avoid workplace drama.
grounds for divorce
Legal reasons that would allow a court to end a marriage. In 1891, women had almost no legal grounds for divorce - men controlled the process entirely.
Modern Usage:
Today we have no-fault divorce, but historically women were trapped in marriages unless they could prove extreme circumstances.
ministering to wants
Taking care of someone's daily needs - cooking, cleaning, shopping. Victorian middle-class couples hired local women for domestic help.
Modern Usage:
Like hiring a cleaning service or meal delivery - paying someone to handle the household tasks you can't manage.
lotus-headed column
Smoke rising in a decorative shape, like the top of an Egyptian column. Hardy uses beautiful imagery to contrast with the ugly emotional reality inside.
Modern Usage:
When something looks perfect from the outside but is falling apart inside - like a Instagram-perfect relationship that's actually toxic.
facile in domestic preparations
Skilled at household tasks like cooking and cleaning. Angel learned these skills working at the dairy, which was unusual for middle-class men.
Modern Usage:
Like a guy who actually knows how to cook and clean because he lived on his own, not because his mom did everything.
intolerable inquiry
When everything around you seems to be asking the painful question you can't answer. The furniture itself seems to judge their situation.
Modern Usage:
That feeling when you're going through a breakup and every shared object in your apartment reminds you of what went wrong.
Characters in This Chapter
Angel Clare
conflicted husband
Struggles between his love for Tess and his inability to accept her past. He makes breakfast and goes through daily motions while emotionally withdrawing completely.
Modern Equivalent:
The partner who says they forgive you but then punishes you with cold silence and emotional distance
Tess
devastated wife
Desperately tries to bridge the gap Angel has created, even suggesting divorce or admitting she considered suicide. She finally accepts that separation is inevitable.
Modern Equivalent:
The person who keeps trying to fix a relationship after their partner has already mentally checked out
the cottager's wife
unwitting observer
Represents the outside world that assumes the newlyweds are blissfully happy. Angel sends her away to avoid awkward questions about their situation.
Modern Equivalent:
The neighbor who keeps asking how married life is going when you're actually headed for divorce
Key Quotes & Analysis
"Clare arose in the light of a dawn that was ashy and furtive, as though associated with crime."
Context: Angel waking up the morning after Tess's confession
The dawn itself feels guilty and shameful, reflecting Angel's mental state. Even nature seems tainted by what he now knows about Tess's past.
In Today's Words:
Angel woke up feeling like he was living in some kind of crime scene.
"I thought - I thought we might - separate now. Were you not going to suggest it?"
Context: When Tess realizes Angel can't move past her confession
Tess takes the initiative to voice what Angel is thinking but won't say. She's trying to save them both from prolonging the agony.
In Today's Words:
I figured you'd want to break up now. Weren't you going to bring it up?
"How can we live together while that man lives? - he being your husband in Nature, and not I."
Context: Angel explaining why they cannot stay married
Angel sees Alec as Tess's 'real' husband because he was first, reducing Tess to damaged property. His Victorian mindset cannot separate love from sexual purity.
In Today's Words:
How can I be with you knowing you were with him first? In my mind, he's your real husband, not me.
Thematic Threads
Moral Rigidity
In This Chapter
Angel's inflexible moral code makes him unable to forgive or accept Tess's humanity
Development
Evolved from his earlier idealization of pure country life to devastating personal judgment
In Your Life:
You might see this when someone in your life can't forgive normal human mistakes and holds you to impossible standards.
Social Shame
In This Chapter
Angel's concern about their future children and social scandal drives his decision to separate
Development
Intensified from background social pressure to active force destroying their marriage
In Your Life:
You might feel this when making decisions based on what others might think rather than what's actually right for you.
Emotional Distance
In This Chapter
Angel and Tess live as polite strangers, maintaining form while destroying intimacy
Development
Progressed from passionate connection to complete emotional withdrawal
In Your Life:
You might experience this when conflict makes you shut down emotionally instead of working through problems together.
Self-Sacrifice
In This Chapter
Tess considers suicide and agrees to separation to protect Angel from scandal
Development
Continued pattern of Tess putting others' needs above her own survival
In Your Life:
You might do this when you consistently sacrifice your well-being to avoid making others uncomfortable.
Male Authority
In This Chapter
Angel makes unilateral decisions about their future while Tess accepts his judgment
Development
Reinforced pattern of men controlling women's choices throughout the story
In Your Life:
You might see this in relationships where one person assumes they have the right to make major decisions for both people.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific actions does Angel take that show he's pulling away from Tess, and how does she respond to each one?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Angel say they can't divorce, and what does this reveal about his real concerns versus his stated ones?
analysis • medium - 3
Where have you seen someone demand impossible standards from others - perhaps a boss, parent, or partner who can never be satisfied?
application • medium - 4
If you were Tess's friend, what would you tell her about Angel's behavior, and how would you help her protect herself?
application • deep - 5
What does this chapter teach us about the difference between loving someone and loving the idea of someone?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Decode the Impossible Standards
Think of someone in your life who seems impossible to please - they always find something wrong, move the goalposts, or bring up past mistakes. Write down three specific examples of their behavior, then ask: What might they be protecting by demanding perfection? What would happen to their self-image if they accepted human flaws?
Consider:
- •Look for patterns in when they raise their standards highest
- •Notice if they apply the same impossible standards to themselves
- •Consider what they might fear about accepting imperfection
Journaling Prompt
Write about a time when you realized someone's love came with conditions you could never meet. How did you handle it, and what would you do differently now?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 37: The Sleepwalking Truth
The coming pages reveal unconscious minds reveal suppressed emotions and true feelings, and teach us sometimes accepting painful situations requires more strength than fighting them. These discoveries help us navigate similar situations in our own lives.