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ncle Herbert and Aunt Alberta’s silver wedding was delicately referred
to among the Stirlings during the following weeks as “the time we first
noticed poor Valancy was—a little—you understand?”
Not for worlds would any of the Stirlings have said out and out at
first that Valancy had gone mildly insane or even that her mind was
slightly deranged. Uncle Benjamin was considered to have gone entirely
too far when he had ejaculated, “She’s dippy—I tell you, she’s dippy,”
and was only excused because of the outrageousness of Valancy’s conduct
at the aforesaid wedding dinner.
But Mrs. Frederick and Cousin Stickles had noticed a few things that
made them uneasy before the dinner. It had begun with the rosebush,
of course; and Valancy never was really “quite right” again. She did
not seem to worry in the least over the fact that her mother was not
speaking to her. You would never suppose she noticed it at all. She had
flatly refused to take either Purple Pills or Redfern’s Bitters. She
had announced coolly that she did not intend to answer to the name of
“Doss” any longer. She had told Cousin Stickles that she wished she
would give up wearing that brooch with Cousin Artemas Stickles’ hair in
it. She had moved her bed in her room to the opposite corner. She had
read Magic of Wings Sunday afternoon. When Cousin Stickles had
rebuked her Valancy had said indifferently, “Oh, I forgot it was
Sunday”—and had gone on reading it.
Cousin Stickles had seen a terrible thing—she had caught Valancy
sliding down the bannister. Cousin Stickles did not tell Mrs. Frederick
this—poor Amelia was worried enough as it was. But it was Valancy’s
announcement on Saturday night that she was not going to go to the
Anglican church any more that broke through Mrs. Frederick’s stony
silence.
“Not going to church any more! Doss, have you absolutely taken leave——”
“Oh, I’m going to church,” said Valancy airily. “I’m going to the
Presbyterian church. But to the Anglican church I will not go.”
This was even worse. Mrs. Frederick had recourse to tears, having found
outraged majesty had ceased to be effective.
“What have you got against the Anglican church?” she sobbed.
“Nothing—only just that you’ve always made me go there. If you’d made
me go to the Presbyterian church I’d want to go to the Anglican.”
“Is that a nice thing to say to your mother? Oh, how true it is that it
is sharper than a serpent’s tooth to have a thankless child.”
“Is that a nice thing to say to your daughter?” said unrepentant
Valancy.
So Valancy’s behaviour at the silver wedding was not quite the surprise
to Mrs. Frederick and Christine Stickles that it was to the rest. They
were doubtful about the wisdom of taking her, but concluded it would
“make talk” if they didn’t. Perhaps she would behave herself, and so
far no outsider suspected there was anything queer about her. By a
special mercy of Providence it had poured torrents Sunday morning, so
Valancy had not carried out her hideous threat of going to the
Presbyterian church.
Valancy would not have cared in the least if they had left her at home.
These family celebrations were all hopelessly dull. But the Stirlings
always celebrated everything. It was a long-established custom. Even
Mrs. Frederick gave a dinner party on her wedding anniversary and
Cousin Stickles had friends in to supper on her birthday. Valancy hated
these entertainments because they had to pinch and save and contrive
for weeks afterwards to pay for them. But she wanted to go to the
silver wedding. It would hurt Uncle Herbert’s feelings if she stayed
away, and she rather liked Uncle Herbert. Besides, she wanted to look
over all her relatives from her new angle. It would be an excellent
place to make public her declaration of independence if occasion
offered.
“Put on your brown silk dress,” said Mrs. Stirling.
As if there were anything else to put on! Valancy had only the one
festive dress—that snuffy-brown silk Aunt Isabel had given her. Aunt
Isabel had decreed that Valancy should never wear colours. They did not
become her. When she was young they allowed her to wear white, but that
had been tacitly dropped for some years. Valancy put on the brown silk.
It had a high collar and long sleeves. She had never had a dress with
low neck and elbow sleeves, although they had been worn, even in
Deerwood, for over a year. But she did not do her hair pompadour. She
knotted it on her neck and pulled it out over her ears. She thought it
became her—only the little knot was so absurdly small. Mrs. Frederick
resented the hair but decided it was wisest to say nothing on the eve
of the party. It was so important that Valancy should be kept in good
humour, if possible, until it was over. Mrs. Frederick did not reflect
that this was the first time in her life that she had thought it
necessary to consider Valancy’s humours. But then Valancy had never
been “queer” before.
On their way to Uncle Herbert’s—Mrs. Frederick and Cousin Stickles
walking in front, Valancy trotting meekly along behind—Roaring Abel
drove past them. Drunk as usual but not in the roaring stage. Just
drunk enough to be excessively polite. He raised his disreputable old
tartan cap with the air of a monarch saluting his subjects and swept
them a grand bow. Mrs. Frederick and Cousin Stickles dared not cut
Roaring Abel altogether. He was the only person in Deerwood who could
be got to do odd jobs of carpentering and repairing when they needed to
be done, so it would not do to offend him. But they responded with only
the stiffest, slightest of bows. Roaring Abel must be kept in his
place.
Valancy, behind them, did a thing they were fortunately spared seeing.
She smiled gaily and waved her hand to Roaring Abel. Why not? She had
always liked the old sinner. He was such a jolly, picturesque,
unashamed reprobate and stood out against the drab respectability of
Deerwood and its customs like a flame-red flag of revolt and protest.
Only a few nights ago Abel had gone through Deerwood in the wee sma’s,
shouting oaths at the top of his stentorian voice which could be heard
for miles, and lashing his horse into a furious gallop as he tore along
prim, proper Elm Street.
“Yelling and blaspheming like a fiend,” shuddered Cousin Stickles at
the breakfast-table.
“I cannot understand why the judgment of the Lord has not fallen upon
that man long ere this,” said Mrs. Frederick petulantly, as if she
thought Providence was very dilatory and ought to have a gentle
reminder.
“He’ll be picked up dead some morning—he’ll fall under his horse’s
hoofs and be trampled to death,” said Cousin Stickles reassuringly.
Valancy had said nothing, of course; but she wondered to herself if
Roaring Abel’s periodical sprees were not his futile protest against
the poverty and drudgery and monotony of his existence. She went on
dream sprees in her Blue Castle. Roaring Abel, having no imagination,
could not do that. His escapes from reality had to be concrete. So
she waved at him today with a sudden fellow feeling, and Roaring Abel,
not too drunk to be astonished, nearly fell off his seat in his
amazement.
By this time they had reached Maple Avenue and Uncle Herbert’s house, a
large, pretentious structure peppered with meaningless bay windows and
excrescent porches. A house that always looked like a stupid,
prosperous, self-satisfied man with warts on his face.
“A house like that,” said Valancy solemnly, “is a blasphemy.”
Mrs. Frederick was shaken to her soul. What had Valancy said? Was it
profane? Or only just queer? Mrs. Frederick took off her hat in Aunt
Alberta’s spare-room with trembling hands. She made one more feeble
attempt to avert disaster. She held Valancy back on the landing as
Cousin Stickles went downstairs.
“Won’t you try to remember you’re a lady?” she pleaded.
“Oh, if there were only any hope of being able to forget it!” said
Valancy wearily.
Mrs. Frederick felt that she had not deserved this from Providence.
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Let's Analyse the Pattern
The incremental process by which chronically controlled people begin asserting independence through small acts of defiance that build toward larger boundary-setting.
Why This Matters
Connect literature to life
This chapter teaches how controlling families use shame, guilt, and dismissal to maintain power over adults who should be free.
Practice This Today
This week, notice when family members use phrases like 'after all I've done for you' or 'you're being selfish' to shut down your boundaries—those are control tactics, not legitimate concerns.
Now let's explore the literary elements.
Key Quotes & Analysis
"She's dippy—I tell you, she's dippy"
Context: His blunt assessment of Valancy's behavior after the wedding dinner incident
This quote shows how the family can no longer maintain polite denial about Valancy's transformation. Benjamin's crude honesty cuts through their careful euphemisms and forces them to confront reality.
In Today's Words:
She's lost it - I'm telling you, she's completely lost it
"Oh, I forgot it was Sunday"
Context: Her response when criticized for reading secular literature on the Sabbath
This seemingly innocent comment is actually revolutionary - it shows Valancy no longer automatically follows religious rules that once governed every aspect of her life. Her casual indifference is more shocking than open rebellion would be.
In Today's Words:
Oops, my bad - but I'm not stopping
"I wish I could forget I was a lady"
Context: Her response to her mother's plea to 'remember you're a lady'
This reveals Valancy's growing understanding that being a 'lady' has been a prison. She's beginning to see how these social expectations have limited her entire existence and stolen her authentic self.
In Today's Words:
I'm sick of having to be the good girl all the time
Thematic Threads
Identity
In This Chapter
Valancy rejects her childhood nickname 'Doss' and begins defining herself against family expectations
Development
Evolved from her earlier passive acceptance to active self-definition
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you start correcting people who use outdated versions of your name or identity.
Class
In This Chapter
Valancy identifies with 'Roaring Abel' the town drunk, seeing him as a fellow rebel against respectability
Development
Building on her growing rejection of middle-class propriety
In Your Life:
You might find yourself sympathizing with people your family or social circle looks down on.
Family Systems
In This Chapter
The family struggles to maintain control as Valancy's small rebellions disrupt their established dynamics
Development
Escalated from their initial dismissal to Uncle Benjamin's blunt assessment that she's 'dippy'
In Your Life:
You might see this when your family can't adjust to your new boundaries and labels your growth as problems.
Social Expectations
In This Chapter
Valancy's mother's desperate plea to 'remember you're a lady' meets with Valancy's wish she could forget it
Development
Intensified from earlier chapters where Valancy simply ignored expectations
In Your Life:
You might recognize this when you realize you're tired of being the 'good' one who always follows the rules.
Personal Growth
In This Chapter
Valancy's growing confidence shows in her poetic criticism of Uncle Herbert's house as 'a blasphemy'
Development
Advanced from her earlier timid observations to bold aesthetic judgments
In Your Life:
You might notice this when you start expressing opinions you used to keep to yourself.
You now have the context. Time to form your own thoughts.
Discussion Questions
- 1
What specific acts of rebellion does Valancy engage in, and how does her family react to each one?
analysis • surface - 2
Why does Valancy identify with Roaring Abel, and what does this tell us about how she sees herself changing?
analysis • medium - 3
Where have you seen this pattern of 'controlled rebellion' in your own life or workplace—someone who's always been compliant suddenly pushing back in small ways?
application • medium - 4
When someone you know starts setting boundaries after years of going along with everything, how should you respond to support their growth?
application • deep - 5
What does Valancy's journey teach us about the relationship between control and eventual rebellion in human nature?
reflection • deep
Critical Thinking Exercise
Map Your Own Rebellion Pattern
Think of a time when you started pushing back against expectations—at work, in family, or relationships. Create a timeline of your small acts of resistance, from the first tiny boundary to bigger changes. Notice the pattern: What gave you courage for each next step? How did others react?
Consider:
- •Small rebellions often feel scarier to us than they appear to others
- •Each successful boundary builds confidence for the next one
- •Family or workplace systems resist change even when it's healthy growth
Journaling Prompt
Write about a current situation where you're feeling controlled or overlooked. What would your version of 'refusing the medicine' or 'sliding down the bannister' look like? What small boundary could you set this week?
Coming Up Next...
Chapter 10: Seeing Through New Eyes
The silver wedding celebration is about to begin, and Valancy is armed with a new perspective on her relatives and a dangerous willingness to speak her mind. With her declaration of independence ready to deploy, the family gathering promises to be anything but peaceful.




